Getting Out Of “Fed Up”


When we feel fed up with our current state and life there are stages to getting out of it I am realizing and they are not always easy because realize it or not humans are creatures of habit and not necessarily good habit.  

How do you start with getting out of “Fed Up”?  You first figure out what the heck it is that has you fed up and how you might actually be getting in your own way, be your own obstacle by clinging to stuff, people situations you ought to not be clinging to because they represent a security blanket and what you know, all you know, have always known.  Just because something is all you know does not mean it is where you are supposed to be forever.  It is up to each of us to make the journey and know when fed up means time to make changes, maybe major changes in our lives, our relationships, spiritual path, behaviors, viewpoint.  It might be painful at first, even or us, but if we want to get out of fed up, we have to find a way to make changes.  First understanding what is keeping us fed up and how we contribute to it ourselves is crucial.  Then we can get out of it.  How do we get out of it?  If someone offers us a life raft, a rope to climb out of the “fed up” waters we are drowning in or ditch we are in, we wise up and take it, we run with in swim with it, fly with it and as powerfully and as focused a manner as we can with as little damage in our path as possible, including to ourselves.  We don’t just stare at the lifeboat etc.. offered, the opportunity offered to change our lives, to go to a more authentic life, to fulfill our dreams, full potential, be miserable, fed up etc.. hoping somehow by some magic wand if we just pray enough it will just magically fall on our laps and walla all will magically change.  We are co-creators with Adonai in this world, and we must work with him to co-create our lives, and get out of “Fed Up”.  

If you find yourself in the ocean or ditch of “Fed Up” find a life boat, a rope or someone offers it, and grab it for dear life and get the hell out of that ocean, of that ditch, get over being shy, uncertain, scared whatever the hell you have to get over and move from fed up to something very different.  Ultimately, you are co-creator with the creator, so co-create, have the courage, have the guts.  I say this for all of us, me included, whether in love, in vocation, in spiritual path, have the guts to co-create, prayerfully but actively and proactively.

Shalom and Amen

Beauty Of A Soulmate


I try to find the write words or word to describe what this feels like, to know you have connected to your soulmate.  I guess I have found the words. 

It is like the coming together of a beautiful symphony of the most amazing and beautiful music.  The compliment and synergy that you can sense and feel in every level of your being, consciousness, wanting to be a part of their life, wanting them to share in your life journey in whatever way possible.  It’s truly a beautiful thing.  You don’t feel anxious about it, even if there are logistics issues where you are not logistically right next door.  You have faith that somehow something will happen to change the logistics, somehow.  You’re not sure what, how or when, but you have faith.  You meditate, pray on it and have faith.  You also envision all the things you can collaborate on together, create together so on and so forth. You can see them as your best friend life, your creative partner, so much more developing over time, very naturally, very organically.  The connection is there, you can sense it is there mutually, and there is a similar worldview and even if your spiritual path is taking a slightly different turn, they are a person with an open heart and mind.  Thus, they can still share in your journey, while you can respect their faith journey, that once was yours in some remote way.  When you have found your soulmate it all kind of comes together and you also feel you can be yourself, sweet, but also sassy and they are okay with that.  Your soulmate comes into your life at the right time, like for example to really spur you on to live your dreams, to really bring them to life and find your path, and there is truly a psychic connection, may even receive their thoughts in song and poetry that you write.  You might even feel their pain, physical and emotional pain, angst, which if you are an empath, ay ay and you don’t try to change each other, whatever “flaws” there are, barring really deep ones like abusive ones, you can handle them.  There is a similar worldview, path of goals you have for your lives and at some point you have that conversation, even about how to work towards them as a team.   You can give each other space and you are not jealous of each others friendships and you are okay with any difference of opinion an views, it doesn’t get under your skin or agitate you greatly.  You have that great compliment and synergy.    You truly are happy for the other person’s successes, milestones, encouraging, helping each other all of that.  You are not jealous of the other person’s success, and are happy that they are happy and same goes for them being happy when you achieve and succeed.  You can give each other advice, seek each other out for advice and not have false pride about it and you can say sorry when you have to.  

It truly is a most beautiful gift to be given to find your soulmate and whether you can come together right away or some time after your meet, it is a beautiful gift from the creator to be truly grateful for.

Shalom and Amen


Why False Accusations Matter

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In this election the DNC and Killary campaign, along with erroneous feminists like Alred have given credence to false accusations of groping etc…One problem, they have been debunked. That makes this very dangerous.  It makes it dangerous on several fronts.  

It is dangerous because it makes a mockery of real abuse, the kind Slick Willy inflicted on women and the kind Killary inflicted on that 12 year old child whose life she destroyed when she was a young attorney.  It makes it much harder for true victims to make their claim when true assault happens.  Leaked emails show that the DNC took out Craigslist ads for actresses to play the role of victims of assault.  That and Killary destroying the lives of the women her husband truly did assault and of that 12 year old who was brutally attacked and left in a coma shows a dark and horrific heart and soul. For her to claim and Aldred to claim they are champions of women is a bunch of bull.  If they were, they would not be party to these false accusations against Trump and would not be making a mockery of assault, which does scar women.  That is one reason I find the accusations, false accusations against Trump appalling.  

The other reason is that it shows the DNC and Clinton have no character of any value what so ever, nor do they have any viable policy, that they are a continuation of Obma, Alinsky, Marxism and all things that are not what the Federalist Republic Founders of this great Capitalist nation intended for it.  They can not really talk about policy, how it will grow the nation, grow capitalism, the Bill of Rights, Conscience Rights, so they get fake attendees to rallies, hire people to disrupt rallies violently and women to make false allegations.  That says to me, great flaw in character, greater than flaws her opponent might have.  To hire actresses to make up such despicable accusations or even pay or cajole anyone into making such horrible false accusations, whether you or your campaign does it, says a lot and none of it is good.  If I am looking at who gets my vote, based on what the DNC has done, their platform and what Killary has done, approved, the character flaws are too great.  Bankruptcy is a tool of wisdom, pillow talk, locker room talk of a single man, ehhh, but some stuff like what I have seen with the DNC, with Killary’s campaign, her tenure in politics and as an attorney, show flaws that as a Judeo-Christian and Patriot, I can not abide.  The flaws are too great to entrust her to run this nation, too great, particularly her campaign making a mockery of assault on women in so many ways and being a rape enabler, as Dr Gina aptly put it.


What Has Been Holding Me Back?

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I had to wonder what has been holding me back from a relationship, from the arts, fully engaging and all that.  It has not been easy pinpointing what it is, but I am realizing it is two things.  

One thing is expectations.  I have had a little voice that in the back of my head says I won’t meet the expectations of others, of the audience, of myself even We should strive to do our best and present our best effort, work and all that, even in a relationship.  However, if I am so focused on it having to be always a certain way, meet certain expectations then I will never move ahead.  I am making progress in terms of putting my work out there and have been reaching out in terms of a relationship.  I still worry to a degree that I won’t meet expectations, will let people down.  Much of my life I have been told about my flaws, very rarely was I told about my virtues by those closest to me, and my dad leaving when I was a kid didn’t help.  I didn’t say “that is not me, that is what you are projecting unto me and I reject it”, not even to myself and look at my virtues, gifts, talents.  I am doing that now, have been for a while and I do not accept what others project unto me.  Still expectations do have to balanced and tempered in life or we will never succeed in moving ahead, in reaching out because of expectations and fear of rejection.  That is true in all scenarios of life, including love.  

The other thing is the fibromyaliga, especially in terms of relationships.  I have been very open online and in general about the fibro, the crashes all the “agita” as we Italians say it brings.  I often think that no man will want to have or even build a relationship when he realizes what a pain fibro can be.  I keep thinking they will get tired of it and walk away, so part of me thinks I shouldn’t even try to deepen any connection with my soulmate.  Then someone pointed out to me that I am making assumptions about persons without really knowing and that I should give relationships a chance, not automatically assume a guy will run because of the fibro.  I am having to  put the fibro as something that if the person loves me, we will work through and around together, since when people care about each other whether in friendship or more, they work through and around certain issues.  I have to not assume that a man won’t be able to handle it and will run away.  

I can’t allow either of these things to hold me back from my path and relationship with someone who is my soulmate.  Hopefully they won’t either.

My Purpose?


What is my purpose for being here?  Seems God did give me an inclination to the creative, to writing and I love recording projects, so what is my purpose?  Is there a core path I am to take to achieve that, besides Judaism as my faith?  These are all important questions to ask myself.  What is the answer?  

I realize it is teaching and inspiring through the arts.  That is a broad broad goal perhaps, yet it is not.   The arts have a way of impacting perhaps like no other, so I am meditating that I am able to be a great teacher and inspiration through the arts while also earning my living. I also realized that maybe I should record groups of songs according to theme.  The themes could be romance, love, love lost, nature, faith, relationships.  There are any number of themes I could record and while I make my journey of conversion to Judaism, I am still under the umbrella of Christianity, technically,  I can use song to explain my journey to Judaism and even my journey through fibromyalgia, relationships.  There is so much poetry and song can get across.  I am also realizing that if I wait for the perfect time for everything I will never do what has to be done to move my life forward and to a new level.  I am not going to wait for this, but will start recording in groups, for example Holiday the theme I will put forth ASAP.  It will feature my own material spoken word and even a holiday favorite of mine or two.  In terms of it sounding perfect, doesn’t have to, just has to sound from the heart.  Even if my allergies are making my voice sound less than perfect, doesn’t matter.  Success is doing what you truly understand the creator is calling you to do.  That is my goal and my joy.

Shalom and Amen

The Spirit Can Fly.


When I am meditating I am focusing on my subconscious, psychic consciousness and the heart to be, along with the assistance of the highest heavens and believing, the vessels for manifesting my hopes, prayers.  I realized that part of the problem was that was too much in my head overthinking and not feeling what I was visualizing in my meditation.  Now I am approaching it differently because I realize if only my mind is open, but my spirit and heart are not feeling it, then manifesting anything will be a bit difficult.  I hope you enjoy this meditation I found and find your way to realizing your dreams.

Security or Compassion?

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In a world that is so topsy turvy, and so much war etc… going on, the Torah commands kindness, hospitality and all that.  On the other hand, there a question of security for the native land, for your country.  How the heck do I square my conservative beliefs with my journey now of coming into Judaism that says we must welcome the stranger etc..?  

One thing I firmly believe is that the answer is not to uproot them and send them to a strange land, but rather to work to change the ideology that creates these situations and oppressions in the first place in those parts of the world.  When Yeshua said that prayer in numbers was powerful, he had a point.  When the intent is strong to bring about change, when change is prayed for, that the ideology of the Islamic faith, the most repressive forms and the most fanatical forms, shift.  When we pray that governments truly honor a very clear Constitutional code and perspective and all the things that make a nation thrive, prosper and succeed as a truly Capitalist Constitutional Democratic Republic and we work to change our own government to that, leaving charity and such strictly to the community, the faith institutions and the government leaves much money in our pockets so we can be charitable, when they spend very efficiently, wisely, hold dictatorships accountable, the world can change for the better and we can still honor Torah.  The governments of The West must work to create safe zones in those areas, including Africa and meantime also we as a whole must work, I am realizing to work together as a true community to eradicate fanatic ideology that brings harm to people in the world.  We can always honor Torah, but even the Jewish Bible makes it clear that God expects borders and for them to be respected.  How do we know this?
I recently read something from Renew America and it made good points: “Two things, we are told, are under God’s sovereign control: how long a nation lasts, and where its borders are. The verb translated “having determined” is the Greek verb “horizo,” from which we get the word “horizon.” It means “to mark out, to define.” So God has marked out and defined the borders of each country.   The bulk of the second half of Joshua is a record of the promised land being divided up among the 12 tribes. What is striking is how thorough and detailed the description of each tribal boundary is. In Joshua 15 the word “boundary” is found no less than 15 times in describing the perimeter of Judah.

For instance, here’s the description of the southern boundary: “It goes out southward of the ascent of Akrabbim, passes along to Zin, and goes up south of Kadesh-barnea, along by Hezron, up to Addar, turns about to Karak, passes along to Azmon, goes out by the Brook of Egypt and comes to its end at the sea. This shall be your southern boundary” (Joshua 15:3-4). Such detailed delineations go on for chapter after chapter.

Even regarding private property, curses were pronounced on anyone who moved a boundary marker, a stone which delineated the perimeter of privately owned land. Borders, boundaries and property lines clearly matter to God.”    In another article I found it talks about legal and illegal Aliens and what the bible has to say.  What does it have to say? Many will take passages about hospitality to strangers and use those to say we must accept everyone and if some bad apples get through well, it’s okay.  It makes some good points also 

“Strangers that sojourn with you or live with you do not equate with illegal aliens. In fact, the corollary here, in each and every case, is that the children of Israel were “strangers” in Egypt. That’s why they were to treat their own “strangers” well, because they knew what it is like to be “strangers” in a foreign land.

Clearly, then, what it means to be a “stranger” is to be a foreigner. In the case of the children of Israel in Egypt, they were invited and, at first anyway, were honored guests. Later, they would be oppressed by a generation who “knew not Joseph.” But they were certainly not trespassers. They were certainly not in Egypt illegally. They were certainly not breaking the laws of the land by being in Egypt. In fact, they were commanded not to offend their hosts in any way (Genesis 46:28-34).

So, we must conclude that “stranger” does not equal “illegal alien.” Even when the term “alien” is used in the Bible, it seems to have the exact same meaning as “stranger.”  But the aliens and strangers of the Bible were expected to obey the Hebrew laws, though they were exempt from some. They were also treated differently than the children of Israel in that they could not own property; they could be bought as slaves and charged interest on loans.  Only if these aliens and strangers were fully converted to the covenant could they be landowners, partake of the Passover and be fully integrated into the nation of Israel.”

God makes it clear we are to have boundaries and they are not to be encroached upon, or disrespected.   Those who are going to reside or immigrate to a nation must abide by their laws so on and so forth, must not try to disrupt that society, embrace it as its’ own.  We are never to mistreat, take advantage of the immigrant legal or illegal, but we are to understand the necessity and biblical command for borders.  Should we honor Torah and Mitzvot, be kind, understanding and all that? Yes, but within the boundaries of sound biblical teaching and our own safety, as well as strict abiding to the Constitution, the letter of it as much as possible.  


Shalom and Amen


Brining In Healthy Love

It is said that love makes the world go round and relationships as well.  However before we can love anyone and be loved, we must connect to love within the cosmos, with the creator, and love ourselves, not in a narcissistic way, but in a way that we feel we deserve to love and be loved.  In bringing in relationships, we want to make sure we are healed and can bring in healthy relationships.  I am realizing more and more that it is vital to bring in relationships that bring harmony, though they challenge you to grow.  They must “push” positive buttons, not negative ones.  They should enhance our good qualities and we in them, this is what a healthy relationship does.  It brings out the best in us and to realize what we must work on, the shadow side of us.  I hope this will help us do that, attract healthy love, and relationships, along with meditation on that daily.  In my in depth coaching group, by membership only, I will delve much more into this.

Shalom and Amen

Thank You and Kudos



I wanted to thank all those who follow me, it’s very gratifying to share what I do with all of you.  Thank you.  I also wanted to say Kudos to all my fellow bloggers who give of themselves through blogging.  

Those of us who blog are giving a piece of self to the reader and it is a wonderful thing to be able to feel you can open yourself up and share what is in your heart and soul.  It is a gift to the blogger I think and those who get to see into our heart, spirit and soul.  Therefore Kudos to all my fellow bloggers for sharing a piece of yourselves with the world.

Shalom and Amen

What’s Cooking This Week


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This week I will be attending events related to Sukkot at synagogue, but that does not mean I won’t be working on other stuff also.  Hopefully, my voice will get back to normal and no more frog sounding voice.  What’s the plan, what to do? Well…

In regards to the arts, my hope is to have a clear enough voice to record some spoken word projects in English and Italian.  Hopefully my voice will cooperate.  I hope to write one or two new pieces for this and also record some public domain material I found and like.  That’s in the artistic realm.  

In regards to the in depth coaching, I am going to be setting up a separate blog for that, and start posting, creating material that is exclusively available through membership, lifetime membership for a one time investment.  Once I have created the initial material for the Transforming-Growing  Life Coaching blog then I will work on promoting it.  

In regards to my soulmate, bringing him in, the soulmate as I previously described, I am going to continue to envision and meditate on the path cleared for our union, our BFF and beyond union.  I realize how important it is to be with someone who can share my worldview and my faith journey, path, advocacy for Israel, all of that.  I look forward to all kinks being worked out and my uniting with the one who is my truest soulmate and will share my journey as a life coach, artist,  Judaism, and is very understanding of the fibromyalgia and the fact that I have to pace myself quite a bit in my activities, travels etc..  

Shalom and Amen