It’s easy to live a lie, for any one of us to be determined to not see or hear truth. The truth, even prophetic, word of knowledge, strongly intuitive, connect the dots, all these truths should be embraced for guidance, should be, but are often not. Why not?
We have dreams, illusions and all that jazz going on, so when someone comes at us with any truth that we feel sabotages that, messes with that, we don’t want to hear it, not from the Holy Spirit, not from others. An article I came across spoke on this subject and pointed out that besides the defense mechanisms employed with frightening regularity, we have grown into a culture that, despite proclaiming a desire for the truth, would actually prefer to be lied to. Say what, we want to be lied to? Think about it, now schools want everyone to feel special so even effort awards are given, all kinds of stuff like this. The problem the article points out is two fold the problem is twofold: first, as a culture we’ve come to expect to be spared our feelings at the cost of the truth, to be lied to. Second, defense mechanisms and other aspects of perception work to keep the individual in an illusion which is intended to be better than reality. We tell people white lies all the time to make them feel better, even to ourselves fighting against the path anointed to us, determined to go the path we want at all cost. We talk about keeping it real, or even receiving divine guidance, inspiration, but many of us might prefer the illusion rather than the reality of things.
What happens when a friend won’t feed any of that and will give the truth on any level as they see it, are given in word of knowledge for you, any of that? The person has to be honest enough to say it as is, especially with big picture stuff. If they are all excited about a certain event, the dress they chose, or ask about weight, well you may have to be a bit diplomatic. In general if you are going to be a true parent, spouse even friend, you need to be willing to share these types of truths, not in a yelling screaming way, but straight forward as you can. If the other person is unwilling to embrace that, you may find a cold and frozen wall in front of you. That’s okay, just keep praying and keep speaking these truths, as certain things go of course be sure you have the factual info. If you find you feel you always have to say what the other wants to hear, can’t be honest, truthful with that person, well you may have to accept a walking away. At some point they will realize the truth is preferable to mere illusion. That is not to say you don’t encourage a person’s gifts etc… but always do so in a way that is of truth, be at peace with that.
Shalom and Amen