Healthy Relationships, Honesty

Part of respect is a relationship is honest communication, but what does that mean?  For one, no lies, no cover-ups.  It also means you have to stop bottling everything up or projecting them onto the wrong people.  If issues arise in a relationship, keeping them bottled up until you explode is not honest or healthy, and if you are having issues with your job, projecting that anger towards your boss towards other people who have nothing to do with that crap is also dishonest.  How you communicate, what you communicate and to whom you communicate matters a great deal. Honesty is part of moral character that signals positive and virtues like integrity, truthfulness, straightforwardness, including conduct, the absence of lying, cheating, etc. Honesty also includes being trustworthyloyalfair, and sincere.  Seems like a tall order, but that is what a healthy relationship strives for, to have this be part of the relationship this honesty.

Why is this important? Honesty is one of the keys to character and one of the most admired aspects of a successful, responsible person.  If you don’t trust someone, you can’t be at ease, you worry, the more you worry the more you will act in ways that are detrimental to you and the other person, make sense?  Constantly trying to “protect” your partner or trying to avoid looking bad can actually create more trouble.  In a relationship and in a family, you need to know that everyone is on the same page, and which is hard unless both of you are being honest.  Once trust has been eroded, it takes a lot to get it back, to rebuild.  It’s not just about being truthful, but doing so in a way that they will hear, truly hear, listen and benefit from the communication.  This is why meditation and stepping back is good to do because if you communicate in feelings of anger are likely to have detrimental communication and exchanges.  The goal in a healthy relationship is to have honesty be a way of life, which includes presenting issues with some kindness.  Relationships are like food, like any dish you cook, they have any number of ingredients, those ingredients have a formula in terms of how they have to be mixed in together, the amount, how they are to be cooked, what temperature, well a relationship is similar to that.  You have a number of ingredients that need to come together in order to make a healthy relationship, honesty is one of them.

How do you build trust?  I found an article, a Psychology Today article and I think it really does a great job of giving key points on how to do this.

Namaste, Shalom and Amen