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The Journey That is Life.

When I see women confuse sexy with sexual even in photos where they think that to be sexy they have to show lots of skin, I have scratch my head.  I don’t get it.  Yes a guy will do a double take, but that does not mean he sees you as long term sexy and valuable.  All it means is he sees skin and sex written all over you, that’s it.  

I am not saying don’t take good care of yourself and all that, you should, for yourself.  Real sexy, long term comes from making a man feel he can reach for the stars with his talents, with his abilities, that he can realize his most cherished dreams and his working with you to help you realize yours.  It’s also you working to realize yours in compliment to his, it’s about being confident in who you are, your gifts, talents etc.. growing as a person, and encouraging him to do the same, growing together.  Real sexy is not about showing skin, boobs, legs, but about who you are, your talents and being confident in that both in a man and a woman, about having he guts to go outside the box and your comfort zone, take chances, be willing to fail and get back up.  This is why Trump is right about not hiring for high up positions people who have not had failures and come back strong.  Real sexy, real confidence etc… comes from having fallen flat on your face and said “screw it, I am coming back better than ever and to all of you who said I was toast screw all of you go to hell!!!”  I never cared about showing cleavage, or was into short skirts, or any of that crap because I didn’t need to be.  I was always going to do things on my terms, led by the Spirit and if you didn’t like it well tough, lump it anyway.  I was going to dress as I pleased, minimal make up and if you didn’t like it, there was the door.  I was going to voice my opinion, give you a tough love kick in the rear when I though you needed it, a hug when I though you needed it, just ask my mom, much as I loved her, I was honest with her also about don’t blame God or destiny for your poor choices in life, they were your choices, leave God the heck out of it.  I was going to be me and that was that.  Granted, it has been a bit of winding road to refine exactly who that is 100%, but the core of the belief of sexy is about who we are not what skin we show will never change.  One can look great, look sexy, without being overtly sexual or vulgar because it is about who you are and how you make a man feel holistically that truly makes for sexy.  

Namaste, Shalom and Amen.