Can you speak up about what you perceive, give your input and yet still be supportive? Can you have collaboration, true connection, integration etc… when the other person is too scared to connect on any level, really connect? These are questions that we might find ourselves facing in life, so what is the answer? Well nothing in life is ever cut and dry, not really.
If you are sharing your views etc..as just that. sharing and doing so because you truly care and also at the same time recognize that the other person may not want to change what they are doing, even if it’s not working then okay. One might not see changes, not right away, but at least you know you spoke from the heart, cared enough to speak, to give your assessment, suggestions etc…If that person determines you have valid points and goes with it, great and if they don’t, well say lots of prayers, do lots of meditating on the positive and do your job the best you can. If at any point you truly feel in your heart, spirit and soul you can’t stay, then well, you can’t stay. At lease you will know you shared from the heart what you felt needed to be shared. They might not be ready to handle all that sharing, that caring, support, so you may get silence back initially, but that’s okay. You just keep doing what you were meant to do, do your best and keep praying and meditating on the positive. What if you are in a collaborative, joint effort situation, and connection, collaboration, really connecting, having free flow communication is important to you in order to really make a success of things in full., really knowing the other is important to you? What if the other person is not really there because of life issues, past traumas, current ones, or whatever? I am not a fan at this stage of life of doing things lone ranger as I call it. I am really looking for people and projects that there will be a real connection, real in depth collaboration, connection etc…, really getting to know the persons involved in the projects I am involved with, at least the key players in the project. It matters a great deal to me and I feel that it matters to the success of whatever the project is that there be strong mutual connection, collaboration etc…If the other person is not ready for that, I can’t force it, can’t pry them open to connect etc…I can only reach out and be myself, offer my full support, be the best me I can be, pray and meditate. At some point hopefully the protective walls will come down and there will be full connection, in depth collaboration etc…, but until then all I can do is be me, do my work, share my gifts, pray and meditate. I have to trust that I will have the wisdom to navigate the waters and create a safe harbor for collaboration, connection etc.. in depth.