There is this assumption that for something to be “it”, a relationship, anything, it has to come like a blazing fire or with bells and whistles, but I am realizing that is not true.
That which God has anointed, which speaks most true to my spirit is turning out to have come in a manner that is like a stream of water that flows very naturally. It is something I find I am able to flow with very easily, naturally. Sharing, being me comes very naturally in this particular role and with a particular person, which is very beautiful. Society and the media in particular has given this impression in the past that if a project, a vocation, a relationship, a friendship wasn’t begun with some kind of major “wham, bam” then forget it. a true vocation, anointed project, even soulmate whether friendship or romantic life partner is not about “wham bam”. It is about much more than that. When something is meant to last long term it is something that flows, that you feel in sync with, you feel supported by and you also extend that. There is a sense that you are not only nurturing the project, or relationship, but you are somehow being nurtured, inspired etc.. by it. You can see yourself connected to that project, that friendship, that relationship even 50 years from now, even 100 years from now in some fashion. You want to nurture it, see it grow, find ways to have it grow and don’t feel it will be a major effort because there is common ground. You find you can communicate when it comes to a project with those involved in the project very easily because those involved see you as an integral part of the project and vice versa. If a relationship you see each other as equal parts of the whole, so you feel very comfortable communicating. You also feel comfortable exchanging ideas, even in a project situation you feel that way when it is truly an anointed project. There is a sense of willingness to compromise, to find a middle ground for the greater good of the organization, project, the relationship. There is flow. There is also honesty about how you view things etc.., not in a mean way, but honesty out of caring. The persons involved in the project etc.. or the person in the relationship, they understand and feel they can also do the same. You understand if they share something they are doing it out of caring, even if you don’t agree at all. There is where the compromise comes in. If it is a romantic relationship, or friendship, even one that has potential to go beyond friendship, this all applies. As for supporting each the other person’s dreams, even a friend’s, well yeah, but also we should be honest and make sure they streamline their dreams, lives, so as to not burn out, that they don’t have a fragmented and cluttered life, end up in circles to nowhere. That is an important part of caring, but how we present that is also important. That also has to be kept in mind.
We have been fed this notion of what relationship, vocation is supposed to look like, supposed to be like feel like, “immediate wow, explosion wham bam city”. Well no, lasting life long amazing stuff does not necessarily feel immediately like that, it may feel like the sweetest most sublime hot air balloon ride in the sky, can soar like an eagle kind of thing. Remember that.