The beauty of a well tended and cared for garden, lovely isn’t it? The garden did not get this way on its’ own. Feminism, modern feminism fails to understand that relationships are all about gardening, not about winning, not about what they think it is. What does this have to do with chivalry and all that? Plenty.
Women decided they didn’t want to care for or be cared for, that it was sexist, a sign of times of enslavement to the male species to have a man truly care for and take care of them and I don’t mean in an unhealthy dependency way. It’s akin to a garden where both parties are the gardeners and as they tend to each other with great care, with great integrity, ethics, chivalry and all that jazz, the garden produces beautiful fruits, flowers, a beautiful place for peace, so much joy. This also includes any long term work relationship and friendship. If you are going to have a long term working relationship or friendship, then both parties need to be in a place where they recognize the beauty of the compliment of male and female as created by God, celebrate those compliment and synergy differences, not hate on them, try to destroy and eradicate them, not try to redefine sexuality. When a man brings up an event, the courteous thing is you take her, you pick her up, take her home, especially if it is out of her immediate living area, like another county, don’t have her take buses and trains and all that. The lady may say no thanks, which I don’t see why she would, but at lease the chivalry was extended. Opening doors, holding doors, including car doors, so many little things that are not done and part of it is the “women’s movement” crazy notion that if you let a man do all this stuff and if you have a man take care of you in any way, worry about you etc..you are setting women’s lib back or some other stupidity. Women also need to tend the garden, whether it’s romantic union or friendship, once the man has established a solid base, clear boundaries, but has shown he is ready for a mature, deep friendship or other type of union. The garden should be mutually beautifully nurtured, chivalry should extend both ways in different ways because it’s the right thing to do. I went through a short phase of “women’s lib, modern women’s lib mindset” luckily, I got of it, got some common sense. I hope I will find others who think this same way and we can create a beautiful garden in life.