Expectations, Blessing or Not?
Expectations, we all have them, not necessarily a negative thing, is it? well depends. Depends, depends on what, either you do or you don’t have them? Either they’re good or they’re bad, work or they don’t? Well, no, not that simple.
We can each define ambition and progress for ourselves. The goal is to work toward a world where expectations are not set by the stereotypes that hold us back, but by our personal passion, talents and interests.
Let’s start with expectations of self. We can be our own worst critics, our harshest taskmasters. Shouldn’t we have expectations of ourselves, goals? Yes, but at the same time, what should they be? We all have innate gifts, talents our creator gave us, and understanding the needs of humanity, understood we could not all be given the same gifts and even within the category of those gifts not at the same level of capacity. What should we expect from ourselves? When I taught ESL one of the mottos we gave students was KISS, Keep It Simple Sweetheart. In the case of personal expectations the best expectation is to discover what your God given talents and gifts are, find constructive opportunities to develop them and use them in your lifetime to your benefit and benefit of the greater society, one where all have the opportunity to develop their talents etc… Also, give yourself space to stumble and fall, get up again, wiser, stronger than before, with greater faith than before.
Whatever happens in the world is real, what one thinks should have happened is projection. We suffer more from our fictitious illusion and expectations of reality.
What about others, expectations of others? Often we go back to what others should have done, over and over. We put high expectations on others, very specific laundry list on them of what they should do to prove themselves to us etc.. What if we just had the same expectation of them that I spoke of having for ourselves? What if we expected realization of potential and might I add for self, no victimization crap, accepting that yeah life has moments that really frankly are YUK, and UGGHHHH!, cry, scream into the pillow, beat up the pillow, go to the gym and punch the punching bag, exercise, get it out constructively, make changes to life, behavior etc.., be an example to others of expectation on how to handle tough moments. Expect them to learn and move forward, process and move forward with what was learned, keep growing, learning, realizing their full potential, be a better person. What if that was the basic expectation we had, nothing more, and relayed that clearly, all we expected was develop and live up to your full potential, which I know exists, just have to find it and cultivate it, through thick and thin, be there for them to do so? Something to contemplate.