Protocol, Preparation Critical, Why?

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The light shines within., going out in connection to the Divine Creator.

See that light, that beacon, that lighthouse, that’s the Protocol and Preparation Lighthouse of life, vocation, relationships and faith.  For all the free spirits out there, those who chafe at the mere thought of protocol as I use to and really wanted to always wing it in life, and be a free spirit, now that I have actually grown up, realizing free spirit still needs some kind of boundaries, but why?  The inner child is throwing as does the inner child in all of us the preverbal tantrum jumping up and down and screaming “why why why!”  As one whose greatest strength is to be an improvisational speaker, poet, songwriter-singer, right there on the spot, free spirit, go with the flow, with the moment, don’t plan or worry so much seems like a really awesome thing, live in the moment.  I pretty much did that most of my life, lost in the maze of figuring out my way out of the confusion and crap borne out of my childhood, my parents’ tug of war and mess with me in the middle, and my mom’s bitterness about the divorce, my dad’s family, all that jazz.   It didn’t work out well for me, not even as an artist.  Recently in my capacity as Music Associate and Coordinator for Most Precious Blood in organizing a benefit concert my colleague and I had a meeting with a group that was supposed to perform for us, as a service to the community, however, there was not enough preparation, not for lack of trying for the event and the meeting.  The first impression made on the person who came for the meeting was not a good one and they backed out, but we have managed to secure other talent and I will be meeting with them this week, so all is not lost.  However what it did teach me is what life has been teaching me and that is that while you can be a free spirit within your artistic framework and your work to an extent, there still has to be protocol, coordination, excellent preparation in other respects.  Let me address that.

When you are dealing with others, if for example you say you are going to be meeting and for whatever reason that meeting then is not going to take place, you communicate that to that person.  If you do tell someone you are going to have a meeting with them you hold yourself to that, you keep your word, you don’t then suddenly change your mind and just not show up or not have the meeting with them after you said you would.  Common courtesy, common protocol, common sense and manners.  When you are going to meet with someone, be sure you know their background if it’s a professional meeting, that you have looked over what they have send ahead of time, make the time.  Have that info with you or take highlight notes with you and be able to access the full files if necessary..  Be very well prepared, as first impressions will make or break you, your team and your organization.  If you are organizing an event, for friggin goodness sakes, do not put your team or colleagues in a position of having to rush through planning, plan all events at least 8-12 weeks in advance, including promotion and ticket sales, if not 12-16 weeks. Lots of good planning, coordination and communication, you and your team, no exceptions or excuses.  Be sure you communicate and if you say you are going to meet for a meeting an introduction etc.. and you can’t or there is a change, you let people know, you have that courtesy.  Common courtesy protocol.  This is also true for any relationship.  If you give your word, keep it, barring a medical or other emergency, keep it.  This is why being a busy bee butterfly is problematic, quite problematic and being someone who can’t say no who feels they always have to say yes, can’t turn anyone down can be problematic.  Who and what to say yes to has to be carefully determined, schedules carefully worked out, one can’t say yes to everything and everyone or one will end up breaking one’s word to everyone or a number of people.  This is one reason I have withdrawn from most of my meet up groups and even Israel support groups because I know I want to dedicate my time to the church, Hadassah and the Petrosino lodge, so what is the point of trying to commit myself to a whole bunch of other things if my heart is with these groups, these people?  I will end up having to break my word, back out of things when their schedule conflicts with events at the church, Hadassah and Petrosino, so what is the point?  The artist and minister who always rebelled against protocol, wanted to be a purely free spirit know realizes there is not such thing and that protocol, coordinating, planning are essential to life, though we can within the framework of our vocation be free spirits in some way and that is a good thing.





Initiative Seen As Rivalry?


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Can a person’s initiative be seen as rivalry? It might be, depends.  It depends on a few things.

From the standpoint of the person with the initiative, what’s the motive?  Is the motive really caring about the organization, the people within the organization, the community etc..?  Is the initiative coming from a true calling of the Holy Spirit, not from ego, but from a true calling to go along this path.  If you see something crumbling, and you feel a true stirring of the soul to help rebuild it etc.., and your motives for the initiative, even small step initiatives within the organization, your participation then no problem.  If when you are taking initiative you are doing so in a way that is truly constructive, making it understood why you are taking the initiative you are, then should be fine, even if you have a bit of rough start. If the motive is however, ego centered, proving you are better than anyone else, getting only your own agenda in, out of context of what the organization represents, trying to fulfill some dream of your own, you might then encounter problems.    Motives for taking initiative within an organization is crucial, matters a great deal, for your own heart, spirit and soul if for nothing else.  What about from the other person’s standpoint?  Let’s say you are very decisive, boom boom boom, decide, do, now, pronto, clear as the morning sun what needs to be done, now and why, and what shouldn’t be done and why.  You are willing to take the bark and bite from the top, bit back if you need to because you did what had to be done for the good of the organization making decisions as they needed making in that moment. Well, Okay great  What if the other person is not like that, what if those around you working with you are not like that?  Let’s keep it simple and say a key colleague.  What if they are not like that?  They may not know how to respond to you, to your boom boom boom approach, very clear cut Holy Spirit know what to do when and how here and now, ready to do it and if I have to have go up against the big guy okay approach.  They may feel threatened by it, unsure what to do with you, with your approach. They may feel overwhelmed a bit, particularly in the beginning.  What do you do?

As always I am a big fan of meditating, praying.  In the end you have to decide if the initiative is important enough to the progress of the project, organization etc.. that you need to keep taking initiatives.  If you do, keep praying, doing what needs doing and if there is any fear etc… on the part of the other person, pray it subsides and they realize you are doing what you truly are being led to do for the organization, for the greater good and will be with you, on the same page, at the same pace.


Speaking Truth of Heart and Scriptures


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The passages that the church looks at today are Acts 18:9-18 and the Gospel John 16:20-23.  Though there  is historical and theological context, there is also a life lesson context, a metaphysical context, a symbolic one, so I present these questions for you to ponder:

  • What is the metaphysical meaning of Paul’s going from Athens to Corinth?  What do each of these represent on different levels of consciousness and self?  Is this a journey you might need to make, perhaps from subconscious acceptance of certain truths to conscious acceptance, even if painful to face?
  • What mental attitude is represented by Paul shaking his raiment and saying, “Your blood be upon your own heads”? From a purely spiritual and consciousness levels perspective what is this about and how can it be applied to our own lives, living?
  • When this realization that the spiritual life is unlimited in its capacity of expression is established, what is the next step? How can this help us with the first two questions put forth?
  • What city represents constructive thought? What in our lives does so?  It could even be others who bring wisdom to the table to help you reflect and reconstruct in your vocation, in your personal life…..
  • Is Christ an afterthought in your life, or along with the Father and the Holy Spirit a solid guide?
  • As there is cohesion in the Trinity, synergy, not fragmentation, can we say the same about our lives in any sphere of it?  If not, how can we look to the Trinity to give us an example of cohesion in our projects, lives, vocational path etc..?

Speaking scriptural truth, holistically, not bending to our will or desire for it to be what we want, but what it is, is not easy in our world today.  It is also sometimes difficult to speak what is in our hearts to others, but the Trinity can teach us to trust with whom we can share what it is in our hearts etc…, it can teach us much, as can Paul’s courage.  He also gave a cohesive structure for the church, and cohesion is important.  I hope this helps you on your life journey in all areas of your life, to look at scripture and ask these questions.


Springboard and Cohesion To Becoming…


As I move forward with this blog, I hope it becomes more than just a blog.  My hope it that it will become a life coaching tool that includes, with  your financial support:

  1. Guest bloogers regularly 
  2. Quality audio meditations
  3.  Quality video meditations
  4.  Quality audio and video seminars
  5.  Free live monthly seminars for blog subscribers and members, donors  access only
  6.  Who knows what other tools and resources we will add to this

There will be every effort made to insure cohesion in the material presented and how it is presented, from blog to live presentation.  I have learned a lot from my own life and observation, one being cohesion is critical with projects and life.  I thank you now for your support to make it all a reality.


Being Social or Hiding/Running?


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Social Butterfly, we’ve heard the terms right and “busy bee”, which on the surface can sound great, but what is the motive behind being a butterfly and a busy bee?

Motivation is often the key to a lot in life.  I have at times, including when I did not want to deal with pain and the reality of fibromyalgia done the busy bee thing, trying to be involved in anything and everything at once.  The result was major fibro crash, so not so smart.  The human tendency and we kind of see it from the get go even in Genesis is to evade, run from, escape, not face up to things, not want to deal with things.   Some go to extremes to not deal with or face their own pain, hurt, memories etc…, drugs, alcohol, not everyone.  Some find the arts as their way to get out the pain etc.., even cooking as a therapeutic way to deal with stress, and pain.  There is no one size fits all for how one deals with pain whether that is prayer, meditation, the arts, cooking, baking all in moderation, in a healthy way, even socializing.  However, when a person totally delves into a frenzy of hoarding almost one friendship after another, one activity after another, one charity after another etc…, afraid to be in silence, alone, alone with one’s feelings, thoughts etc…, well not good.  Everyone has stuff that is not so great in life that happened, decision they wish they had made differently, things they wish they had handled differently, but with prayer, with faith, with changes in current patterns that can be washed away, one can find new life.  That is healthy and wise, quite healthy and wise to do so, recommended actually.  

However if one is scattered all over the place in a constant flurry of activity, has to always be surrounded by people activity and noise because they can’t be alone with themselves, their own thoughts and feelings, memories, not good.  I realize there are going to be some sad, lonely times, moments, even when God unites me with my twinflame soulmate in true union, in sacred union, the nature of life.  I realize I need to have those alone creative times, which I don’t really have now to create music and record freely what I write, to be alone with memories, even painful ones, process them and cry if I need to or want to, ball my eyes out if that is what I want and need, feel my chest rip open and know I will still be okay, maybe even write some awesome stuff out of it.  I may also end up remembering some really great stuff and write some funny, even joyful stuff, who knows.  My activities should be not many, not busy bee ones, but few and ones I do because they are truly dearest to my heart, and time I spend should be spend with very special people.  I spent this weekend having a great time with truly great people from the Joseph Petrosino Lodge, for a cause I believe in supporting veterans.  I realized in terms of my meet up groups I need to get out of most of them because they really don’t interest me they were groups I became part of just for busy bee reasons, not because they really were anything I was going to be really active in.  I also realized I don’t have to prove anything to anyone, just have to appreciate the gifts God gave me and use them wisely and effectively.  Time to really streamline my life, my activity, time to be authentically me and grow up once and for all, but like I said still be me, sweet and spice, all rolled up into one.


Interdependency Not Same as Unhealth Co-dependency

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aspen trees

Lovely trees aren’t they? They are called Aspen trees, and recently I find myself contemplating collaboration, and healthy depency in terms of faith, The Trinity, different projects, and even as I ask God to bring me into union with my twinflame soulmate in this world those words.  When I have any question on anything I do two things meditate/pray and research.

One thing my research came across is a fact about the Aspen trees.  A grove of aspen trees is actually one organism, sharing one root system.  Though the trees are invidual trees they are sharing a root system, and flourshing in conjunction, in tandem.   Yes, there is individuality, but there is also the presence of the trees in each other’s lives each day, giving the world oxygen, beauty etc…, there is a common root shared.  Dependency is not necessarily a bad thing if there is appreciation of the other. There is a difference between unhealthy co-dependent destructive, make you feel miserable etc…, discourage you constantly all that and healthy interdpenendent is collaboration, cooperation, encouragement mutually, recognition of the other for what they bring to the table.  It is that when you are in each other’s company socially, personally, professionally you inspire each other, you are also able to give each other feedback, advice, seek it from each other.  You are not competing to be better than each other, and you are proud of each other’s accomplishments, talents, gifts, successes, support it, are there to share in it.  In a interdpendent relationship personal and professional, they share power on an equal footing. taking responsibility for their own feelings, actions, and contributions to the relationship. Because they have self-esteem, can manage their thoughts and feelings on their own and don’t have to control someone else to feel okay. They can allow for each other’s differences.  They don’t fear deep friendship and if it’s a personal relationship, they have no fear of intimacy and no problem wearing their heart on their sleeve with that person.  There is mutual respect for the other person’s goals whatever the context of the relationship may be and they can mesh it in a way at times that is even extradinarity benefiticial to both on all levels, a great sign of maturity when that happens when they are able if they are on the same path to streamline their lives and goals, even within a professional relationship, to mesh the vision etc…,

As I take on a new role and have made a lovely connection to a great person, my instincts tell me they are a really good soul, I hope that there will be a deep friendship, that lasts a lifetime and that we will be a solid part of each other’s lives.  I also hope that there will be a healthy partnership, teamwork kind of thing going on, and that in working with others connected to this project also I will have great teamwork going on.  I truly do want to have healthy interdependence with others, they with me and a great path in the arts and ministry combined.  Should the Lord see it to put forth for me my hearts desire of union with my twinflame soulmate, I pray that relationship is one where our paths mesh and intertwine in the most beautiful ways day to day, that though we would become as one, our individuality would never be lost.  The same with my faith journey in Christ.  God gave me a warrior soul for a reason, and the gifts he gave for a reason, so may I always in a good way honor that for the greater good.