Total Nirvana, total peace 24/7, bliss 24/7, no cares, no worries, no criticism, just pure bliss 24/7, sounds good, ahhhhhh. Okay, well if you can purchase a holodeck contraption, create this perfect place, never leave, with ya! Long time ago a wise philosopher said this ” There is only one way to avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.” , basically you would have to cease to be. We don’t live as robots, and we don’t all have the same experiences, so we won’t see things the same way, not even within our own family. Sometimes because of childhood stuff or stuff that happened in our younger years may be always or frequently engaging in Conflict avoidance, will avoid any kind of conflict, even to the point of making any decisions in one’s own life, or taking a stand on anything. The problem is if you are in that category, then you will just go anywhere your emotions lead you in that moment, or where the cultural tide is going in that moment.
Let’s look at inner conflict, which I think can be often the root to outer conflict. Relationships, do we stay or go, do we stay in the safety of what is or pursue a path that in our heart of hearts we know is one much happier for all in the long run, those kind of choices can be a cause for inner conflict. Relationship choices without fullness of information or context, so that you have a nagging something in the back of your mind, though you have a strong pull to them. Since you don’t really know them, have not taken the time to know them etc.. not all the pieces of the puzzle are there, so it’s not a fully informed decision, a rushed one, maybe there are certain red flags that are very obvious to friends, family, even to you subconsciously, but you are ignoring them. This is true in any kind of relationship, or decision, even professional ones. There is also the inner conflict as you make your spiritual journey. I firmly embrace the Bible the layers of truth it has to teach including metaphysical, not that we are God, or can be Gods or anything like that, but on a philosophical level, on an esoteric level, as well as the practical applications, as it did for creating the Republic, our Republic. There are very practical applications, even an understanding of human nature to be gained. I also embrace Jesus as Personal Messiah, one who if I can truly have a relationship with, truly understand his teachings, that of the Apostles, in context of the the OT, it can be very beneficial. However, I also want to learn about meditation techniques, and Zen meditation, Zen philosophy. Will that sit well with everyone in my circle, no. Could that bring me inner conflict? It could if I let it, if I allow myself to get caught up in that storm, up to me. If I have the mindset that if you even try to challenge me on this, it’s war, well then it is war, going to be war. I have set up my heart, spirit and soul, but at the same time my elderly mom has health issues, so if I were to engage in such a war with those closest to us, that would hurt her. You see how my inner conflict would have a ripple effect and become a conflict beyond my own inner world. Inner war can create all kinds of ripples in the pond, though that does not mean you don’t stand up for yourself or what you believe in. However, one of the things that I myself am working on is what size stone to throw in the pond at the time, so I don’t cause a tsunami. Conflict within is often the first line of conflict, even in the career arena. You may feel divided loyalties if you see something that does not seem kosher, part of you is feeling that you should speak up, but that part is in conflict with the part that feels you have bills to pay, family to support, don’t blow it, lay low. If you get tense etc…, starts to create friction in the workplace with others, so inner conflict unresolved will still find a way to manifest and create issues. Remember the adage, “Physician heal thyself”, always.
Inner conflict, aligning our heart spirit and soul need to be the first order of things because until we do that, we can’t find harmony with the external. Those three aspects of self have to resolved, aligned etc.., then external conflicts can more easily be resolved.
Shalom and Amen