Spiritual Self Care

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The spiritual awakening can be a tough one. One of most aspects of spirituality filled life is self care. Self care is nothing like a selfish attitude. Just remember the saying that you cannot possibly water the plants from empty vessel. If you don’t recharge or refill your cup, you simply cannot pour into other cups. The best way to practice spiritual life along with fulfilling experience is to practice spiritual self care. I am presenting to you the tips which helped me cope up as well as fully live my life.

Break:

The breaks can refill you. Arrange the family gathering to remember love of family. Arrange going somewhere to appreciate the gift of traveling ability. The short breaks will surely allow you to recharge your stamina. Staying constantly sharpened can blunt a blade.

Learn to Say No and Yes:

You might become too receptive to people’s requests too much. If this is the case, simply learn to say no once in a while. You deserve self-care and time for yourself.

If you have become too indulged in solitude, remember that we need people’s company in our life too. We also need to say yes equally to saying no. The goal is not to be alone, rather create balance of self and others place in your heart.

Embrace the Chaos:

Sometimes it is the most chaotic moments when we don’t know one of our biggest gifts is waiting to be given to us for being patient. Embrace all the difficulties and chaos of life. Thank master that it is for you to grow and become stronger and better. It is exactly why it is there in your life. Don’t let any other thought take place. Be of mind that it will only get better with temporary set backs.

Gratitude:

Wear the cloak of gratitude and your life will be covered in all aspects as said by Rumi. It is true. Be grateful for your life. You will enjoy life as you are and you allow it to be instead of how others view it. You deserve best and this habit will ensure it.

Spiritual self-care is needed for your growth and blissful solitude. Remember that your relation with God is personal which also means that staying in good health and shape will strengthen your spirit too.

 

Life and Trees, Huh?

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Trees are pretty darn amazing if you think about it. The roots, the trunk, the rings, the branches, leaves, and even fruit that grows on it, flowers, pretty amazing.  Trees are also a great metaphor for life and faith life if you think about it, and apply it to living.  How, well let’s explore that.

The trunk, the trunk is strong, rooted deep in the ground firm, and goes deep, quite deep and could be seen as the unconscious self, the part that hold much of our hidden memories, even suppressed anxieties etc…, also that innate search for something, that intangible something we can’t quite discern what it is we are looking for, that all encompassing love that we can’t quite define, that tugging at the conscience even when society says yeah do what you want, but deep down we know better.   It’s the storage area of all the memories and lessons hopefully wisely learned in our lives, the place where God was able to touch us, make an impact initially.  Then you have the branches and leaves that tell of all the external stories in our lives, all the fruits we have born, have created, the arms extended, what we have carried, the storms we have weathered, the rings tell of the years gone by.  Carvings can tell of who and what has visited us, left their mark on us literally.  

If I am going to be a tree, what kind of tree do I want to be?  What kind of roots do I want to plant what kind of fruit do I want to produce? These are all important questions as I journey through the second part of my life being at the slightly over 50 mark age wise.  I need to determine this and then make it happen with the Lord’s help, be a fruitful Tree of Jesse, one that produces good fruit, not only for myself, but also for others. 

Amen

Finances is one of the areas that causes a lot of stress for people, for couples, families, so when I came across this, I had to share.  Sound or unsound  life and financial decisions can stay with you long into the future.  I hope this will be of help and inspiration.  I hope that I have learned my life lessons and make wiser choices in different areas of my life than some I have made in the past.

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Vertigo Reminding Me of Balance

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Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.
Melody Beattle

For the past few days, due to inflammation from a recent ear and sinus infection I have been dealing with Vertigo, not fun, not one iota of fun.  It reminded me that life requires balance, especially when you have something chronic like Fibromyalgia.  You have to find a healthy balance of spiritual, emotional, creative etc…really important.  I think when that is lacking you subconscious will do something to remind you that you have missing pieces, or things are out of whack and you need to find your balance again, or in the first place.  That’s not always easy to do in this world we live in, but it is crucial to our wellness, very crucial.  I hope that I can find my balance and find it well. 

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Quote and Reflection

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Letting Go in order to move forward, scary prospect for me, very scary.  My dad let go of me, left when I was a kid, and twice when I was a kid I got left behind in a crowded street, so letting go is a scary prospect for me.  Trusting completely in the unfamiliar, wow, big leap of faith. 

However, something has been shifting.  I created my youtube channel and started trusting God that somehow, someone who could help me be what I was supposed to be and do what I was supposed to do would hear my music and I was contacted by people who if auditions go well will be my artistic reps.  I am promoting my youtube channel and this blog diligently.  One of my youtube videos got over 20,000 views, another over 8,000 and still another over 5,000.  Once I have artistic representation, and trusting that one of my several prayers is answered, I will no longer have my own space, place and will have to see about someone to be around for my mom and I will have to do so without guilt.  I will have to be ok with building a life of my own, will have to let go of this not very healthy co-dependent relationship mom and I have, that has kept me from growing on many levels.  Doesn’t mean I don’t love her.  This also means putting myself in a spotlight position, something I really have been weary of thinking what if I am not good enough in comparison to the others out there, but that is silly.  It is not about in comparison to others because we are each just supposed to be the best me we are created to be by the creator, staying within His boundaries, and as long as we focus on that, we are going to be fine. 

What about the relationship area of things?  On twitter I have had several gentlemen friend me and come on with in my face flirting using babe and baby, stuff like that right from the get go, which I don’t like plus I really was not looking for love on twitter or anything like that on twitter, and am not.  One message was very sweet, polite and I thought, open up to at lease friendship, this person is being polite, they are not being disrespectful, they are being polite, so let them know you are find with friendship and see what happens and when I did they didn’t retreat.  It may die out after a few messages, or it may be that at some point, since they reside in NY State, we actually meet and a great friendship develops.  I decided to take a chance, to meditate, pray and take a chance.  If at any point I get a sense of something not right, I block them. 

I am letting go and trusting in the Lord to guide me through this journey, just like I am trusting Him and the Holy Spirit, along with scripture to guide me through the journey of my career and vocation.  I am letting go, not in a sense of being reckless, all due diligence will still apply, but I am not running or shutting down, hiding from life because of stuff in the past.  Yes, stuff will  have to change, stuff will have to be let go of etc… and that’s okay.

Amen

A Plant Reminded Me of My Strength

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Last Night was not fun, my blood pressure went to 157/100 and I wanted to throw up. my head hurt, chest hurt, I was shaking, slight twinge along my left arm.  It was not fun and a bit scary.  Yet I was not in a panic and my thoughts were not dark or panicked ones.

What was I thinking you might ask, and well even if you don’t, I’m gonna tell ya.  I was thinking about what I was going to record next, how happy I was that in three months my debt would be paid off, the larger one, was thanking God for my life, planning what I would be recording next and telling Satan no way he was winning, no matter what we and the Lord would kick his sorry tukkus. I was smiling, and my mom was scared, had this scared look and then this look of utter confusion because she couldn’t understand why I was smiling.  I was holding my head and my chest, clearly in discomfort, but I was smiling.  I took my heart med, the extra dose as needed and then things calmed down and I told her all that was going through my mind.  I then looked over to the table and there was a plant with flowers our neighbor had given us and she had told us that even if the flowers die the plant will continue to last as long as mom waters it regularly.  I smiled again, a big grin and realized that was me.  The flower, my body may have moments of death, of pain etc.., but my heart, spirit, soul, they belong to God, so no matter how much Lucifer tries to mess with my body, my finances, has influenced my impulsive tendencies that led me to not such a great financial place now, I can’t be destroyed, or knocked out for the count.  The faith is too strong, the will to kick dark side tukkus and overcome sin stronghold is too strong, that connection to the faith, not religion, but the faith in holistic biblical spiritual truth is too strong at this point in my life.  Like that plant, some of the flowers may wither and all that, but the plant is resilient overall and it wont allow hell or high water to destroy it.  I am too stubborn for that, thank God.  That stubborn streak has gotten me into trouble, but it also has served me well on some levels.  I have had to learn to curb in a bit and know when to bend, when to be more flexible, and I am still learning to discern that.  One thing I do know is never compromise on the truth of my faith and Biblical truth, biblical moral truth, ethics and integrity as put forth by scriptures with clear lines and boundaries drawn, including for nations and governance.  

As I move forward hopefully soon with artistic representation, God willing, I hope that I will continue to be that plant that though some of the flowers may wilt at times etc.., the plant itself stays firm and strong, faith, hope, gifts, talents nurtured.

Amen

Things To Know About Life With Fibromyalgia

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Illness and death are not signs of failure; what is a failure is not living. Our goal is learning to live joyously and lovingly”-Bernie Siegel

Normally fibromyalgia starts with muscular pain in legs and hips, then it will result in fatigue and finally leads to insomnia (sleeping problems). When you  are first diagnosed with fibromyalgia you may feel like the whole world is finished, but after some time you know that you can move on with it. But it wants to be easy, it takes a lot of patience, determination, discipline and lots of positive attitude to spending the rest of living happily. Sometimes you may feed up with your life and you might go through kind of death, but still, you have a life that can live with some behavioral changes. Most of the people begin with denial and try to move on by engaging in normal household activities and work. However, if you can afford, staying home is better than going to work.

First of all, you need to have a sound knowledge of fibromyalgia. You can read books, health magazines, blog posts or even join local support groups. Now there are support groups for fibromyalgia. While you are on medication you might seek complementary treatment methods like physical therapy, aqua therapy, acupuncture, tai chi, and chiropractor. This is absolutely normal and many people find these treatments are effective than the internal medicine. There is no harm to try one of these if you feel that you have better results.

Secondly, it is important to maintain your body healthy and keep you active. You can overcome sedentary lifestyle due to fibromyalgia through aerobics, walking, swimming, simple yoga. 10-20 minutes of exercise can help you to pain relieve and reduce fatigue. Additionally, this will help your body to develop strength and flexibility and finally help in relaxation. So it is also important to your emotional well-being because it can reduce the impact of negative emotions like anger, depression and despair.

Furthermore, you can relax your body and mind further through meditation. You can learn effective ways of mediation via mediation instructors. When you practice it daily you will notice that the physical tension you had carried for so long was decreasing gradually, allowing your body to relax. At the same time, you can make some lifestyle adjustments that can help to control your symptoms of fibromyalgia. Mainly focus on identifying the stressors that cause stress and how to avoid them. 

Last but not least, you need to reach out to people who had been part of her life. Might be loved ones, friends, and relatives or even a support group. Sometimes you can obtain a service from a therapist. However, listen to each other and problem-solve together All these will help you to live a more positive and bright life in future even though you have fibromyalgia.