Quote of the Day Reflection

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There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.
Bryan H. McGill

Do you have to like everyone you love? Do you have to approve of every action taken by those you love? Wait are these trick questions?  No, they are not.  Loving people does not mean you are going to like or love everything about them, or how they live their lives necessarily.  You may not always be thrilled in the aftermath how you lived your own life, may have moments you don’t like yourself much.  Can you love on a broad human scale to forgive, even if you voice your distaste etc…, hopefully and please non-violently?  You can’t really forgive if you don’t have genuine love for the person, or a general Agape love that is taught in spiritual communities.  Does that mean you have to associate with them, especially if they show a pattern of negative behavior, show they are incapable of true relationship etc…, even true friendship?  No, you don’t.  Forgiving is as much about you and your own journey, loving yourself enough to release the harmful poison that bitterness and lack of forgiving bring to your heart, body, spirit, soul and life.  What about in cases of a tragedy, don’t we want justice?  Yes, but you won’t get justice if you are do blinded by anger and rage that you can’t let justice take its’ course and trust that whether in this life or the after, it will come, in God’s time, not yours, NOT yours.  Justice is not the same as enraged immediate revenge, which could result in an even greater tragedy and error. Without forgiveness there can be no discernment of any truth, that includes forgiving one’s self for errors, missing the mark as scripture says.  Not to say we shouldn’t strive to be better persons and cultivate discernment, right moral, ethical etc… judgement even in how we live our lives, we should, for our sake, the sake of nations, communities and greater society, future generations.  Forgiveness does not mean you have to be a part of someone’s life, have a relationship, or if you do approve of how they are conducting their lives, it means you can mutually agree to disagree and express how you feel without fear one to the other, if you have a really together life with solid boundaries, moral and ethical boundaries etc..who knows you can be a great example for change and transformation. 

Amen

When A Marriage Must Dissolve

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When a marriage is totally dead, can not be revived is toxic to one or both, is creating ill health etc… and must be dissolved, it is never a happy moment, that moment of realization that this is what must take place, but once you do realize it, then what?  As a child of divorce, not an amicable one, with mom still expressing her bitter thoughts and inability to forgive to this day and making me very uncomfortable and feeling caught in the middle, I am going to discuss this topic.

My advice to both parties to begin with, put your friggin big boy and big girl pants on.  Yes, it sucks when stuff ends, when after putting time and energy into something it dies and has to be walked away from, but newsfalsh you are not the first and you are not going to be the last that is dealing with that situation, so cut the pity party.  What do you do?  GET A GOOD LAWYER, NOT ONE OF VENGEANCE, one who will be objective, fair and make sure you are, and your soon to be ex is.  Get very clear, very centered, very fast, very grown up very fast, very practical very fast, and figure how to move on with dignity, nobility and self respect.  Meditate, pray, put together a plan for moving forward and then stick to it.  Also, get a good lawyer, even a good pro bono lawyer, and with the Internet, you can research and find a licensed with good reviews pro bono lawyer, even with angies list you can find a lawyer with good reviews in your areas.  If you have kids, for goodness sakes, children, stay in adult mode, don’t care how old your kids are, leave them out of your war, it’s your war, not theirs, don’t make it theirs, don’t make it so they have to choose sides, if you do, you are truly losers in every sense in the situation and so are they.  This is my two cents of advice as a child of divorce, not a friendly one.  I also wanted to research and so I am sharing this article.

https://www.cheatsheet.com/health-fitness/the-best-divorce-advice-ive-ever-received.html/?a=viewall

Goodbye Clutter, Hello Intuitive Vision

This article that I came across resonated with me.  I had joined a bunch of meet up groups, but really was not attending the events and was getting quite lost and cluttered, in my quest for community, connection etc.. I realized I needed to get very focused, really decide where I needed to put my energy.  I needed to figure out what my calling, vocation etc… was and where I could best fulfill it.  To to hat, I had to decultter.  I hope this helps you in your journey to realization of your goals etc…

Ditch Clutter to Tune In Your Intuitive Vision

By: Vickie Milazzo RN, MSN, JD

Without even realizing it, we wake up daily to clutter pouring in-constant television or the Internet at home, talk radio in the car, TV news programs at the airport and loud music in restaurants. Soon our senses become dulled and our vision turns lusterless. How can a person connect with their intuitive vision and goals while being constantly bombarded by thousands of outside messages?

Vision is essential to success. Yes, you can stumble on a great idea without knowing where you’re going, but in my experience mentoring thousands of people, it rarely happens that way. Successful people look ahead, imagine the future they want, then make it happen through a combination of passion, commitment and intuitive vision.

To conceive any vision you must first get quiet. Remove the clutter and turn down the volume. When you consciously eliminate pervasive noise, silence arouses your imagination. Make it a goal to eliminate clutter from your mind, your day and your life.

I started with my physical environment, which is the easiest to control. I successfully created an uncluttered house and an uncluttered office. Next I uncluttered my mental environment. While I rarely watch TV or listen to talk radio, and I don’t crave an hourly update on current events, I have my own clutter addiction to battle-movies. My addiction got so bad for a while that I found myself going to really bad movies, wondering later why I wasted that time and money. I still love going to good movies, but now I’m more selective.

I appreciate that these activities are some of the most common ways to relax. But you cannot wake up to clutter, be bombarded with it all day, go to bed with that same level of intrusion and still have the mental space to connect with your intuitive vision. Choose renewing ways to relax, such as strolling through a park, soaking in the tub or reading a great book.

As with most ambitious endeavors, eliminating all the clutter in your life can be overwhelming at first. The trick is to start small:

1. Clear your space.
Unclutter your physical environment at home and work. Take 10 minutes every day to file that stack of papers that’s been sitting on your credenza for months. Devote 15 minutes a day to cleaning out a closet or a room that’s only slightly less attractive than the city dump. Don’t tackle the whole attic. Start with one corner, then move on to another until it’s done.

2. Unclutter your mind.
Eliminate one outside stimulus, one TV show or one chatty phone call. Then eliminate another. Instead of reading three newspapers or magazines, read one. While driving, replace talk radio with inspirational CDs or music that stimulates ideas and opens a space for success. Meditate as you fall asleep or read something relaxing that brings you peace, not agitation.

Be equally selective about how you spend time with friends and family. You might not think of a relationship as clutter, but it can be. Are casual, unsatisfying relationships keeping you from your vision? Would fewer, more meaningful relationships be more helpful? Assess whether a relationship is one that you value. If not, eliminate it or, at minimum, reduce the exposure. Uncluttering is about making choices in all the areas of your mind, space and time.

3. Put off procrastination.
Procrastination leads to worry and anxiety, which is mind clutter. You’re anxious about the upcoming meeting because the report due is still rough at best. You worry about overdrafting your bank account because you’ve put off balancing your checkbook. Instead, just put off procrastination.

Eliminate one area of procrastination each week. Schedule it in your calendar, as you would any important appointment, and when that time arrives, do what needs to be done. Your mind will feel refreshingly alert and uncluttered.

Yet, procrastination is not always bad. I hear people say, “finish what you start” or “you had that idea, where did you go with it?” Every day I wake up with new ideas, but like you I have only 16 waking hours a day in which to do it all. Misplaced stubbornness, as in, “I started it, I have to finish it,” can exhaust you as you plow onward in the wrong direction. Selective-intuitive-procrastination allows the best ideas to rise to the top and keeps you focused.

In the emergency room all nurses learn the value and skill of triage. When several patients come in at once, nurses treat the sickest ones first. That’s triage. You can triage ideas. All ideas are not equal, so match your ideas to your intuitive vision to determine which to develop first.

Selective procrastination also eliminates unnecessary busyness. Imagine a low-priority task-perhaps starting a routine project or writing a letter. You procrastinate, and at the end of the day, or the week, that situation resolves itself. The project is canceled or the topic of the letter gets resolved with a two-minute phone call. Selective procrastination, or triage, combined with your intuitive vision can eliminate the clutter of unnecessary tasks.

Ditching clutter enables you to tune in your intuitive vision and connect with future success. In turn, your newly awakened senses arouse your passion. You not only see the future you want, you’re ready to implement the goals and strategies to make it happen.

Why Spirituality Matters

Christ Consciousness

I woke up to my usual routine, my breakfast and my tablet alerting me emails and fb notifications, and when I went on FB a colleague of mine had posted about his son in law here on business in Vegas who had been on lockdown, but I was not sure what had happened.  After breakfast I went on my laptop to see what it was all about.  Horrific, 58 dead so far and over 500 injured.  Now the Progressive Left will make it all about guns, but the man could have used a bomb, so it’s not about the guns.  It did give me a stronger appreciation for a strong, healthy spiritual, even religious center.  Why?

Studies done over and over again have shown over and over again that attendance regularly and involvement in spiritual service, prayer is linked to healthy, stable family life, strong marriages, and well-behaved children. Our founding fathers understood the importance of faith in every day life, even in governance of a nation, which is why you have religious references on plaques of monuments, and why the Ivy League schools were originally seminaries and the primers in all schools were originally the bible. Studies also show that regular spiritual practice leads to an increase in physical and mental health, longevity, and education attainment.  It also teaches us, can teach us about self discipline and discipline in general, about not living for immediate gratification, about me, me, me.  If you get into a steady habit of let’s say attending prayer service, of doing for others, even just a smile to those feeling down, small things, that self discipline will carry into all areas of life, and that into society.  If you learn about civic duties, government restraints that those in power ought to have that sacred texts teach about all of that, understand it all in actual truth and proper context, then you can help make for a society where there is true opportunity and justice for all.  Violence, hopelessness, all those things can be reduced  Spiritual practice on a regular basis can bring peace, clarity, self discipline to you and thus you can then bring it to society.  That was what struck me as I learned of the tragedy of today.  It also made me more determined to write poems and songs of faith, love and spirituality, to for example get into the practice of Tai Chi, to be more involved in classes in my Coop, such as music appreciation, intuitive development to help my creativity further develop.  I am determined to be more consistent in my prayer life, faith life, as I get more prayerful, focused in that I find I have more clarity on other things in life.  A disciplined, not rigid negative, but positive disciplined faith and prayer life, spiritual life can be a very valuable thing, and I hope we can give that gift to our children and for all generations to come. 

Amen

Phrase Caught My Eye

Christ Consciousness

I AM the violet flame, blazing like a sun
I AM God’s sacred power freeing everyone. 

I was scrolling through a site that had to do with the Violet Flame and St Germaine, and to me the Violet Flame represents the Holy Spirit, God’s spirit of wisdom, instruction, conscience all of that.  When we have that connection to the divine, to divinity, to the Creator, how exactly are we a blazing sun and able to free everyone?

When you have strong spiritual centering, a strong prayer and meditative life, solid understanding of biblical principles and all that, you are able to live a life of “law and order”, of boundaries, of clarity and clear decision making, of wise decision making. It helps us to discipline our animalistic instincts and impulses, which if let run amok can bring great destruction, the impulses of greed, vanity, ego etc… It helps us to put some speed limits on ourselves and our lives. It also helps us with forgiveness because unforgivness brings a high price, it even affects our physical health, it’s literally a poison to our system.  Think about it, our decision, actions and reactions have a domino effect on others, so if you are a violet flame, blazing sun, sacred power, that is also humble and grateful, live your life that way, an example of that, also confident in your spiritual center, raise your kids that way and are an example to your grandkids in this and young people, that’s huge.  We do have the power to free others, that includes setting our society free from this obsession with being victims with seeing boogy men everywhere, supremacy and victimization everywhere, free people from a culture of dependency and all that.  First we have to free ourselves, remember charity starts at home, so does freedom.  May we all embrace the beauty of connecting to our Creator and the power of the Violet Flame, the Holy Spirit.

Amen

 

Know Yourself as Eternal, Non-changing and Absolute

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As we walk through life we see the constant change around us as everything follows its natural life cycle. Our body is no exception; it is constantly changing growing and evolving. Yet the person within the body, that silent witness to all we experience, has an eternal quality of something much greater and more permanent that who or what we think we are.

In our quite moments when we are walking or sitting with nature, our feelings reach out and connect and touch a deeper layer of our heart and soul. We become in union with that hidden force that orders the whole of creation. We can be one with this field of love, this presence of the divine, which is within us and surrounding us in each moment of our lives.

All we need to do is just be present and our awareness will naturally settle and become one with its divine nature. We leave behind our physical nature and connect with that presence of love that underlies the physical. We connect with our true Self the silent witness to our life and experiences.

That which was never born can never die. Our true self is the eternal continuum of life itself. What happens in our life is here just for a few moments; we are connected to the whole of life. We can choose any experience we wish to have in each moment, just by choosing that experience with the next breath we take.

You have come to earth for a divine purpose, to have an experience and to create your dreams with your imagination. Next time you are out in nature take the time to reflect on what your dream is? What you have chosen to create in this lifetime. Ask yourself what your true nature is? Like any plant in the garden we are all unique. We have come into this world with a specific DNA a blue print for life. A rose can only grow into a rose, a daisy a daisy. What is your nature?

We surround ourselves with a loving nurturing atmosphere. We are here to grow and develop jus t like the plants in the garden. We have been allocated a life cycle, just like the plants. This is not a dress rehearsal it is life itself.

What is your dream? What is your passion? What difference do you want to create and express in this lifetime? We are all different we all have a different nature and a different dream to live.

We are not here to copy anyone, we are here to express our nature and live our dream and be the finest example of who and what we wish to create in this lifetime.

So next time you are feeling connected to your soul and at peace with the whole Universe. Allow your higher Self to guide you, on your path to your true destiny. Dream your dream, and live your life expressing your joy and blossoming into your full nature.

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Toast to Talent of My Fellow Bloggers

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Kudos, I would like to raise a toast.

I would like to raise a toast, to acknowledge my fellow bloggers who take time to ponder life, to open their heart, spirt and soul to the rest of the world, to share with the rest of us what is in their heart, spirit and soul.  Granted sometimes bloggers may not do their due diligence, come at things from a place of anger etc.. and that can be a detriment, but they can also help to bring people to think about things from a different perspective and that can be a good thing.  Bloggers can help people take a step back and that can also be a good thing.  So, to all my fellow bloggers I raise my glass to you and toast you for your work, time, effort, your sharing.

Amen