What else makes for a healthy mind? Where we put our energy. Learning from the past is a good thing, and having goals for the future is also a good thing. However a healthy mind doesn’t obsess over either, but rather learns from the past, has some clear goals for the future, with flexibility about the roadmap and timeline to getting there, and the bulk of the energy is on the here and now the day to day steps necessary to get from A to Z. Being stuck in the past is a really depressing place to be, especially if we are going to be beating ourselves up about things, or idealizing it in a way that it wasn’t that way and longing for what really wasn’t, missing out on the opportunities right in front of us. Learning from the past doesn’t mean a lifetime of beating ourselves up over mistakes made, nor does it mean blaming everyone else for our screw ups, like former candidate Hillary Clinton does, like many of us at times do and some always have a tendency to do. It’s important to take responsibility for the fact that we do make mistakes, make some wrong choices and those choices have consequences, even grave ones. Also, don’t try to pass the buck as they say. We can realize we messed up and clean up the mess responsibly, constructively., and yes acknowledge that there were outside influences, but take responsibility for how we reacted to that, particularly once we are at a certain age and point of our lives. The other thing that’s important is not to do a comparison to others and to celebrate the success of others, especially if we have had any kind of an influence on their journey to that success. If we start to compare, keep score etc…, we are going to become very bitter, and that is when the Marxist, Communist all must be equal, life is not fare and everything must be equal etc.. mindset comes a knockin. Problem with that is life is not designed for that, even with gifts, talents, skills etc.., God gave different skills, gifts etc… to different people. He didn’t make us all the same, not in our features, height, not in anything. He gave us different features, gifts, talents. To envy another for their success, waste that energy on that rather than moving forward with your own life, goals etc… is foolishness and makes for an unhealthy mindset. Celebrate, don’t envy, don’t waste time and energy on that.
I had an interesting dream recently and the details are not important to share, but what came out of it for me that is the main thing. What did come out of it for me? It was a sort of culmination message on this journey and particularly as regards my vocation.
I signed up for bunch of meet up groups to hone my skills, gain new skills and to network. After this dream and a few other things that I have observed I realized I am not a fractured atlas, nor do I want to be. I am by God’s grace I hope not that at all and a very focused woman who is focused enough to create, to channel her energies into being very discriminate in choosing select venues through which she creates. Also, by God’s grace a woman who realizes that it is not about quantity of people she networks with, but quality of people, and that is why it is best to have a very well chosen, well thought out list of venues two or three that one works with and creates with, from. My running around the city with a bunch of meet up groups, and knowing a whole bunch of artists etc… is not God’s calling for me. Creating from scratch, learning as I create with others as they create, and being selective, and wise in my choices that is the calling, especially as a sign of maturity. What is my choice of venues for creating etc…that I hope to work with and focus on:
My kaartist blog and bandcamp site
The Church/Catholic community
Poet’s House -plan to become a member
Italian-American Writer’s Association
I also thought about my mom who is in her 90’s and how to best honor her and realized the best way to honor her is to keep friggin life as decluttered, streamlined focused on quality, not quantity as possible, even in my social life, just have a few key deep profound shared culture and faith centered relationships that make my world shine and I make theirs shine. If God would bless me with a life partner, also to be a partner in the arts, awesome. That is the best way I can honor her is to do what we used to teach our ESL students K.I.S.S. Keep It Simple Sweetheart. I hope I can do just that, simple, sweet, decluttered, quality, not quanity.
Welcome to my artistic blog and artistic news blog. What will you find on here. you will find snippets of my poetry and news about my projects. I guess I should start with an introduction about myself.
Born in New Jersey, August 1965, this Italian-American, raised mainly by her resilient and strong Catholic mother, a path she, for a time, left behind for conservative Pentecostalism, but, as she discovered the fullness of biblical truth, came home to Roman Catholicism. She has always had a great interest in music, particularly the Oldies, Clean and inspiring Christian, Clean Country and Ethnic music, including Irish. For over 10 years Rev. Katherine Appello taught ESL to students of varying ages. Grounded if her Christian faith and spirituality, Katherine endured a range of issues, including a great deal of pain, which was finally diagnosed to be associated with Fibromyalgia. The essence and the power of music, of words, allow Katherine to overcome these struggles each and every time.