Have to Let Go

Published by kappello on

We all have that one person that though they are not part of our lives anymore, we find ourselves always wondering “what if” and I realized today after seeing something on FB that I have been doing just that.  I have not allowed love in because a small part of me kept thinking “what if we come together again”.  I realized today that there is no coming together because we never really were together, never really built a strong friendship, or strong anything.  If the person is very comfy where they are and you are not offering a similarly comfy alternative, or they are fear too much disrupting their life to be in a true union with you, then what is the waiting around for, will serve no purpose.  Someone can only be yours and you theirs if you have truly built a relationship on a strong foundation of friendship, of sharing pains, joys of life etc.., if you haven’t then they are not really yours, and so much as it pains me to realize it, I need to let go of a certain person completely and move forward, open my heart to love, to the kind of love I am seeking, kind of relationship where the person is 100% free in heart, spirit and soul to be in a full relationship.  Can’t live in a land of “what if”, “maybe” and all that.  Not a good place to live in or operate in.  Time to go to a new place, one where my heart is wide open and ready to receive a true relationship where there is mutual deep friendship, cherishing of that bond etc…  Life is about move forward, not being stuck anywhere and in the relationship arena I have been stuck for too long in the “what if” section. Unless a person makes it clear they want to be in your life, they make every effort to build a solid friendship etc.., what is one waiting around for?   It’s said, but based on something I saw on FB today it seems I have to say  “Goodbye old _____”, can’t say friend, not sure what to put after Goodbye.  

Namaste, Shalom and Amen



Born in New Jersey, August 1965, this Italian-American has always had a great interest in music, particularly the Oldies, Country and Ethnic music, including Irish. For over 10 years Ms. Appello passionately taught ESL to students of varying ages. Grounded if her faith and spirituality, Katherine endured a range of issues, including a great deal of pain, which was finally diagnosed to be associated with Fibromyalgia. The essence and the power of music, of words, allow Katherine to overcome these struggles each and every time. We are all blessed to have Katherine’s strength, wisdom, and words to write “Pray For Me Tonight’