Healthy Boundaries 3 and 4

Published by kappello on

Bouundary Signs

Staying focused on your own personal growth and maintaining personal values are both important parts of maturity.   When we are working to grow as a person, as a professional, or if we are working to recover from some form of trauma, addiction etc…  Some think it might be selfish to focus on that, and I am not saying neglect the world and family etc.. and be narcissistic about it, or be so rigid you cut yourself off from anyone not remotely thinking as you do. However, taking the necessary time to work through what you need to work through, to realize your potential, gifts, talents, so on and so forth, in balance with everything else so you are a holistic person, living a holistic life is a good thing.  If you make bread and one side is all flat, but the other is all puffed up, doesn’t quite look right to people, does it, they expect a nicely well-rounded loaf, or an evenly braided loaf, right?  It’s the same with us, we need to be like that bread, not lopsided.  As we make our journey in life it’s important to maintain solid ethical and integrity boundaries so that we can trust ourselves and others can trust us consistently.  Without those consistent boundaries, we have precious little to offer with our talents, our gifts etc..It’s those values so cherished that can guide us in a crisis, that define us in a crisis, make certain we don’t sway like the palm trees, but stand firm in truly doing what is right for the long term good of all, and also what is the responsible thing to do for the good of all long term, even as we work through stuff, realize our dreams, so on and so forth. 

Namaste, Shalom and Amen


Born in New Jersey, August 1965, this Italian-American has always had a great interest in music, particularly the Oldies, Country and Ethnic music, including Irish. For over 10 years Ms. Appello passionately taught ESL to students of varying ages. Grounded if her faith and spirituality, Katherine endured a range of issues, including a great deal of pain, which was finally diagnosed to be associated with Fibromyalgia. The essence and the power of music, of words, allow Katherine to overcome these struggles each and every time. We are all blessed to have Katherine’s strength, wisdom, and words to write “Pray For Me Tonight’