Loneliness Not A Unique State

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Did you know that being lonely is a normal part of our everyday lives?

Let’s face it, we’ve all been there.  We get depressed when we fail in our exams, when we’re rejected by the person we love, or when someone very close to us passes away. That’s just part of life.  We can feel alone in a room full of people.  Depression, however, can be more fatal than just plain loneliness. It could bring Life-Long consequences that could ruin your Self-Esteem, Health, and Well-Being in the process.

I’m going to share with you some great tips to help you conquer the ‘Melancholy Mood’ so you can get the MOST positivity out of your daily activities. So, with that said, let’s move forward

Tip #1. Do you get enough Light and Sunshine?

Did you know that lack of exposure to sunlight is responsible for the secretion of the hormone called Melatonin, which could trigger a dispirited mood and/or a lethargic condition. Melatonin is only produced in the dark. What it does is it lowers the body temperature and makes you feel sluggish.  So, if you are always cooped up in your room (with the curtains closed), it would be difficult to restrain yourself from staying in bed.

This is the reason why many people suffer from depression much more often in winter than in the other seasons and at higher rates in Nordic countries. It’s simply because the nights are longer. If you can’t afford to get some sunshine, you can always lighten up your room with brighter lights to help offset the darkness. You could go have lunch outside, even on your balcony if you can’t go out due to Covid 19,  and take frequent walks in the early afternoon instead of driving your car over short distances. Even now with this lockdown of sorts, walk around the block or your yard, something that connects you to light and nature. 

Tip #2. Keep Busy and Get Inspired.

You’ll be more likely to overcome any feeling of depression if you keep your mind busy doing the activities you like doing the most. Do the things you love, or didn’t have time for, maybe artistic projects.

If you’re a little short on cash, you could engage in simple stuff like reading books, listen to uplifting music and do some light dancing at home, get involved in an activity that you have passion for, and would love to pursue. Also, set a Goal. No matter how difficult or discouraging life can be, remain firm and have an unshakable belief that you are capable of doing anything you desire.  Even being indoors with this situation, don’t stay in bed all day, it will make you more depressed.  Get on blogs, contribute your viewpoint constructively, set some sort of routine, and push yourself to follow it. With this kind of positive attitude, you will attain a cheerful disposition to beat the blues.

Tip #3. Take a Break. Sit back and Relax.

I mean it.  Listen to some soothing music you like. Soak in a nice warm bath. Simply take a break from your stressful workload and spend the day just goofing around doing the things you love. In other words, go have fun. Get on a group call and do a jam session with music, poetry and allow yourself to go into a positive space.  Life’s to short as it is.

Tip #4. Maintain a healthy diet and Stay Fit.

Avoid foods with lots of Sugar, Caffeine or Alcohol. Sugar and caffeine may give you a brief moment of energy; but they will later bring about Anxiety, Tension, and Internal problems. Alcohol, on the other hand, is a depressant. Many people would drink alcohol to simply “forget their problems.” All they’re doing is aggravating their conditions in the process.  Also, did you know that exercising regularly is a vital depression buster? Why you ask?  Simply because it allows your body to produce more Endorphins than usual.  Endorphins are sometimes called “the happy chemicals” because of their Stress-Reducing and Happiness-Inducing properties.

Tip #5. Get a Social Life outside of work.

No man is an island. Your inner circle of friends is there to give you moral support.  Spending time and engaging in worthwhile activities with them could give you a very satisfying feeling.  And we all now… nothing feels better than having group support.  This is why I love my evangelical church, they are doing all kinds of activities online and this Friday we will be doing an all-night marathon of prayer, praise, song, it’s so uplifting to connect to others, positive others.   What I mean is… doesn’t it feel so good when someone pats you on the back and gives you words of encouragement during your most challenging times?  Even if just virtually, Hug or embrace someone today.  Establish close ties with your family and friends, even online.  The love and care expressed by others could tremendously boost your immune system and fend off illnesses. Best of all, you’ll live a more secure and happy life.

Give them a try and see how they pan out for you.

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Born in New Jersey, August 1965, this Italian-American has always had a great interest in music, particularly the Oldies, Country and Ethnic music, including Irish. For over 10 years Ms. Appello passionately taught ESL to students of varying ages. Grounded if her faith and spirituality, Katherine endured a range of issues, including a great deal of pain, which was finally diagnosed to be associated with Fibromyalgia. The essence and the power of music, of words, allow Katherine to overcome these struggles each and every time. We are all blessed to have Katherine’s strength, wisdom, and words to write “Pray For Me Tonight’