We often see the movies where these relationships come together so magically, and it’s beautiful, not saying it doesn’t happen. If you’re not a warped, destroyed by academia man-hating modern feminist, you might want a relationship, a significant other to share your life with, your joys, sadness etc.. with. I know I do. Here is the thing, for me to have a relationship, I first have to have a great one with myself, with the Holy Trinity, with that great force of creation that brought me into being. There can’t be an us with anyone if I am not clear in me, who I am, some clarity in that and my life’s path. If I am one mass or bundle of confusion, how can I be in a relationship? What will happen is I will simply mimic that person in order to have an identity, clarity and that’s not authenticity, So, it’s important that for any one of us to embrace an “us”, there first be a “me” with a core philosophy and worldview, preferably not one that hates men or women or is anarchist in nature, since that’s not healthy for anyone. I value my Italian-American Catholic heritage from a cultural standpoint and there is wisdom in Catholic teaching. However, my heart, spirit, and soul follow a very metaphysical understanding of the Bible, and a historical one, a beautiful combination. That and one who believes in a Classical Conservative view of the world in terms of government is who I am, a teacher, minister of transformation in what I do is who I am. Once there is a clarity in “me”, then there can be a journey to seek an “us”, that media naranja, that yin to our yang. I hope you are able to find your authentic core before the “us”, to have a happiest “us’ in your life, whether if be friendship or beyond.
Namaste, Shalom and Amen