Goodbye is not always goodbye, sometimes it is simply having to let go, while still caring, encouraging until they are ready to be a full part of your life. Not saying wait forever, or any great length of time, but depending on the circumstances, you may have to wait a bit. Meantime the person can still be your inspiration for song, for a lot of stuff. If the person has a wall up due to a belief system, old school notions, fear of their own self and feelings, whatever the wall is, you can’t force them to knock it down. All you can do is pray they themselves realize there is a wall that is holding back so much of their life, and take it down ASAP! If after a time they have not, no matter how sincere your intentions etc…, then the standing back may have to be a firm goodbye. I myself with a particular connection will see if they can break down their wall in the next six weeks or so, and accept fully the friendship offered.
Namaste, Shalom and Amen