Obstacles Truth Denied and Fear

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Sadness, but we must not be silent.

Sadness, but we must not be silent.

Often when a relationship is stuck on one side or both at the root core it’s truth denied and fear on one or both parties side of the equation.  What could that inner truth be that is denied and that fear?  

The inner truths that we maybe don’t want to face are:

1. The true dream and vocation perhaps we denied ourselves

2. What do we truly believe and why?  

3. Would that change and why if truly examined?

4. The time wasted and people hurt by not living our full inner holistic long term to happiness truth in life, love, vocation

What could be the fears holding us back from a relationship, full unity and union with one’s true love?

1. Fear of being alone

2. Fear of rejection

3. Fear of being judged for not doing what is expected by family, friends, society

At this point in my life, while I can understand it on some level and even empathize, I seriously have little desire to deal with this mindset and that of using things and finances as security blankets for not moving forward in life, especially in relationships, staying stagnant and unhappy in any situation.   Life can be cut off at any moment and to not be holistically happy, and live out one’s truth heart, spirit, soul in vocation, in relationship, spiritually is just sad, plain sad for a human being.   I hope that each of us can find a way if we are in that mindset and living this way out of it pronto and forever, constructively to a great and amazing life of true love, and so fulfillment, in every area of life, especially personal relationship.  For that there has to be admittance of truth to self and others, big time, even if not all truths at once, but it has to happen for there to be movement forward, with fears acknowledged, the whole nine yards, whether face to face, in an email, somehow.

Namaste, Shalom and Amen


Born in New Jersey, August 1965, this Italian-American has always had a great interest in music, particularly the Oldies, Country and Ethnic music, including Irish. For over 10 years Ms. Appello passionately taught ESL to students of varying ages. Grounded if her faith and spirituality, Katherine endured a range of issues, including a great deal of pain, which was finally diagnosed to be associated with Fibromyalgia. The essence and the power of music, of words, allow Katherine to overcome these struggles each and every time. We are all blessed to have Katherine’s strength, wisdom, and words to write “Pray For Me Tonight’