Personality Types 3 and 4

The individualist personality type, also known as aristocrat and bohemian, sensitive and introverted, yet at the same time very dramatic, expressive in regards to safeguarding that individualism, in forging their own path.  They can also be self absorbed, and temperamental, artists are often labeled as individualists.  They  may have trouble committing to anything intimate for the long term because they might be afraid that the other person or group will try to squash it, take it away from them, whatever makes them unique, individual and such.  It’s important for them to create things that are in some way unique, unforgettable, even experiences, to leave their mark,  maintain certain moods and feelings, and may pull away, back to protect their self-image, as well as be jealous and have fits of fury.  They need to be assured in any relationship, situation, that their individual viewpoint, gifts, talents, work will be respected, and that their self image won’t be compromised.  They have to know they won’t be swallowed up by the other person’s life etc…they will always have a certain degree of freedom.  That’s the individualist.  Then there is the investigator, also known as the problem solver, intense and intellectual, as well as perceptive and innovative, they can be excellent inventors, anthropologists, engineers.   At the same time, they are also secretive as well having a tendency to be isolated, Fives spend a lot of time observing and contemplating—listening to the sounds of wind or of a synthesizer, or taking notes on the activities in an anthill in their back yard. As they immerse themselves in their observations, start to internalize their what they learn and gain self-confidence. Knowledge, understanding, and insight are thus highly valued by them, because they identify themselves with “having ideas” and being someone who has something unusual and insightful to share.  They are always searching for answers to everything, and must have the answer to everything, to the what and why of everything.  They are eternally searching, but in this constant search, quest they may be observers, but not participants in life.  It’s important to help them understand that not all things have an answer, and it’s okay, that life is not just about observing, but it’s also important to participate.  Encouragement to observe and then participate in being part of that observation or what comes out of that observation. 

I hope this helps as you navigate different relationships.   I found this article and thought I would share it with you.

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