There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.
Bryan H. McGill
Do you have to like everyone you love? Do you have to approve of every action taken by those you love? Wait are these trick questions? No, they are not. Loving people does not mean you are going to like or love everything about them, or how they live their lives necessarily. You may not always be thrilled in the aftermath how you lived your own life, may have moments you don’t like yourself much. Can you love on a broad human scale to forgive, even if you voice your distaste etc…, hopefully and please non-violently? You can’t really forgive if you don’t have genuine love for the person, or a general Agape love that is taught in spiritual communities. Does that mean you have to associate with them, especially if they show a pattern of negative behavior, show they are incapable of true relationship etc…, even true friendship? No, you don’t. Forgiving is as much about you and your own journey, loving yourself enough to release the harmful poison that bitterness and lack of forgiving bring to your heart, body, spirit, soul and life. What about in cases of a tragedy, don’t we want justice? Yes, but you won’t get justice if you are do blinded by anger and rage that you can’t let justice take its’ course and trust that whether in this life or the after, it will come, in God’s time, not yours, NOT yours. Justice is not the same as enraged immediate revenge, which could result in an even greater tragedy and error. Without forgiveness there can be no discernment of any truth, that includes forgiving one’s self for errors, missing the mark as scripture says. Not to say we shouldn’t strive to be better persons and cultivate discernment, right moral, ethical etc… judgement even in how we live our lives, we should, for our sake, the sake of nations, communities and greater society, future generations. Forgiveness does not mean you have to be a part of someone’s life, have a relationship, or if you do approve of how they are conducting their lives, it means you can mutually agree to disagree and express how you feel without fear one to the other, if you have a really together life with solid boundaries, moral and ethical boundaries etc..who knows you can be a great example for change and transformation.