If we look in scripture we see color associated with for example the priesthood, royalty, regalness, and seasons have colors, nature is all about a range of colors. In winter people can get more depressed, less light, less, color. Yet, too much sun and your skin burns and it can be deadly, so too much yellow, hmmm, not so good. Too much darkness and depression will set in, so everything, even color has impact and I find it interesting what colors mean, what effect they can have on mood. Interior decorators will use color to often give the appearance of more space to smaller apartments or rooms, or add color accents with rugs to do so. How can we use color?
When decorating, if we have someone who has good taste to help us out and can work with the color wheel we might be able to create the perfect harmony of colors in the home, and same goes for our office if we have leeway in decorating. What about wardrobe? Let’s say you want to look savvy, sophisticated, but also vibrant, well maybe outfits for ladies that mix black with turquoise when going to work or to events, things like that. If you want to bring creativity to your area if you are an artist, find a balance of two colors to bring out focus, but also creative flow, put decor around your space, artistic space or workspace. We can encourage others to do the same, friends, family, partners. It seems to be an interesting area of consideration as regards moods and psychology, even for how we decorate our space, our wardrobe, accessories. Don’t you think?
There are times when as soon as you meet someone, the electricity hits you like a ton of bricks, leaves you shaking, literally, becomes a muse for you artistically and on other levels, you connect to where you are having empath experiences in regards to what they are feeling at different times even if you don’t see each other on a day to day basis and other metaphysical experiences that blow you away. Every time you do see them, you go to a magical place, to a place you don’t go with anyone else, it’s kismet. It’s almost like you are being lifted to the highest heaven, to a place that transcends all logic, pure electricity, pure WOW. You sense they are having the same experience, sor similar, but for any number of reasons, things are not able to or ar not moving forward. What do you do? Things seem kind of stuck, you are not part of the other person’s day to day life nor they yours, yet you may not see them for months, but when you do wow, it’s amazing and you don’t even have to say one word to each other and it’s beyond even lust, truly magical, not anything you can even put into words. Again, what do you do? Depends, if you can be part of their world in any way regularly, do so and at the same time, live your life, keep living your life. Also meditate, meditate on the bond organically growing, on the relationship organically moving to where it is meant to move to etc… and trust that it will do so as it is meant to. It may be deep friendship, or more, but embrace what direction it does take and let it grow organically. For those religiously inclined find the saint that is connected ot relationships and pray to them for help, guidance. For those spiritual, more comfortable with meditation and affirmations, you can find something perhaps online related to relationship that you can use, or create your own, again the goal being that it all develop organically, very organically, naturally. I will be posting one for you in the next week along those lines. These types of lighting types of connections, immediate ones are rare and if the person is a good and decent person to boot, wow, blessing. It is truly a blessing and trying to analyze and understand is futile and will take all the fun out of it. Sometimes we need to go with the flow, especially if the person is a good and decent person.
I thought about what kind of relationship I want in terms of my life partner again and it has to have key components:
Strong spiritual component
Make our union a strong priority, making it flow
Be each other’s cheerleader, even as we are honest with each other
Have an artistic component
Be each other’s friend, have that foundation
Make mutual effort to be part of each other’s day to day life
Have a solid commitment, also be free spirited
It’s important we have a strong spiritual base of foundation, even if it’s meditating to classical music together daily, some kind of spiritual base and having similar principles in terms of a worldview. These key ingredients are important if I am going to have a partnership in life and maybe that person I can have this kind of relationship with has not shown up yet. Of course there has to be lots of great chemistry and electricity, that would be super great. I hope that soon, very soon, God can bless me with this union, relationship that starts off with a strong friendship, our making time for each other and then it moves to the next level organically. That is one of my prayers. I know I am 51 and I could lose all hope, but I refuse to and believe there is such a relationship for me, just a matter of my praying and meditating to draw it to me, to being open to it.
We hate ending, most people do, endings mean change, they mean loss. Sometimes, it has to be for any number of reasons. Worse than endings are non endings, situations that never went full circle, never had closure, never had a goodbye as they needed, with so much left unsaid, unresolved. One of the things we need to discern is when to say goodbye, when to close books and chapters, which is not always easy, but is necessary. We might mourn the loss, the closing of that book, chapter, but if it is toxic, if it is not something God would have us continue then we need to discern that and walk away with closure somehow. Even in terms of hopes and dreams that God calls us to, not our own stubborn self, but God, beginning the journey that God calls us on vocationally, but then letting fear stop us throughout life is not a positive. If it is a God given vocation, not saying it will be easy, but it also wouldn’t be filled with pain tears and heartache constantly. That’s not of God. In all things we have to have some kind of discernment, in all aspects of life.
We often seek others to make us whole, to make us feel whole, but that is not another person’s job, no human can really make you whole, or healed. Another can be a catalyst, a prompt for that journey, but they can not heal you. Only we can heal us through accepting what is, was, needs changing and all that. If we keep pushing someone to be the magic cure for us to be whole etc… eventually we will crush them under that weight. We need to figure out how to be whole within our own journey in life, not look to another to be a magic formula to make us whole or anything like that. An authentic, cultivated spiritual life can be of great help along the journey, so I love listening for example to this youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDeB9zIoE_s&t=1463s and others like this to connect to the spiritutal in life. I hope that we all come to wholeness within ourselves as Sons and Daughters of the Most High, The Creator of this amazing universe.
The past came has come visiting me these past few weeks, almost like a haunting, like a ghost. It stays buried for a while, but then either something with the fibromyalgia, something will resurrect the ghosts of the past, all the frustration about not paying attention to God’s plan for me, frustration about letting my childhood stuff cloud my choices etc… into adulthood. The past should stay in the past, shouldn’t cloud tomorrow, but I realized something. It has taken away, rather the baggage I have carried has taken away from me. It has up to now taken away any sense of safety, of choice, any real sense of the ability to make choices, not the right ones. In essence, what was ahead scared me because what had been had hurt me so much. Yet, I kept putting myself in relationship and career situations that would hurt me, cause pain, be one wall after another, one obstacle after another. It is only now that I am coming to understand this fully, this notion of being scared of what was before me, so I didn’t embrace, seek out fully God’s plan for me because I was too hurt by what had been and couldn’t really trust anyone fully, not even God. Am I in a place of being totally healed, where I can totally trust, even totally trust God? No, getting close, getting there, but not totally there, not yet. I am sure God understands and He is quite patient, so I just have to keep walking the journey till I get home, that’s all. What does home look like? Lots of music and ministry/coaching and lots of smiling as I share God, and the lessons of life with all the world, God’s path for me.
When we refer to mindfulness, being in the moment, that sense of being in the moment and letting the moment just be, acknowledge what it feels like, but don’t immediately react, don’t be reactive, get centered, it has a number of benefits. I did a bit of research and wanted to share them with you.
Higher brain functioning
Increased immune function
Lowered blood pressure
Lowered heart rate
Lowered anxiety levels
Experience of being calm and internally still
Experience of feeling connected
Increased attention and focus
Increased clarity in thinking and perception
These are the core benefits of practicing awareness, and for me music and prayer are how I do mindfulness. When the weather is nicer and flowers are in bloom, sitting in the park with headphones and calming music, observing the world around me is how I plan to enhance awareness even further. As we get more centered and clear in our mind etc… the greater clarity our lives will have.