Life Lesson 26 and 27

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We often are so preoccupied with what others think of us, are so desperate to belong that the Dark Side grabs us and we end up just being part of the herd, going along with what the crowd, group does, even when it is vile, harming to self and others, literally. What matters at the core is what we think of ourselves and what does objective spiritual and moral truth say about living life and how to live life?  That is what matters.  Others may mock you for following your calling, dreams, even for honoring all of that, and objective spiritual and moral truth, but that is their problem, not yours.  If they make it a problem, stand firm, don’t show fear, and if you have to walk away, do so smiling head held high.  Wen we think of healing, we think of wanting instant healing, of wanting things resolved now, in the moment, immediately.  Things don’t really work that way, even when we have strong faith that can bring us to forgiving, it may not be an instant thing.  It may take time, lots of spiritual meditating and praying, but it is possible to get there.  Give yourself and time time, give God and His angels time to work with you on the healing.  Allow yourself time to process, mourn grieve, be angry etc…to get to the healing.  It may happen more quickly for some than for others and for some things than for others.  No, one may never forget, but forgiving is necessary, not for the one who caused you the grief, but for you.  Unforgiveness is poison, and you don’t want that in your life or your body. 

Shalom and Amen

Authenticity and Narcissism

Emotions and Meaning

Authenticity is the opposite of Narcissism and sadly I am seeing lots of Narcissism in our society, on the Left.  Authenticity says I know I am a child of God, of the creator and i know what gift life is that is given to me, to all of us.  I am aware of my gifts, talents etc..but I know they are a gift from my creator, not something I gave myself.  Authenticity also means you understand, unlike narcissism, that life owes me  nothing, people, governments owe me nothing, God owes me nothing.  If I am given anything, it’s a gift, an opportunity, it’s providence that I helped bring forward by being authentic, not narcissistic.  Authenticity means I understand that I screwed up and will screw up again because like it or not I have an ego and it will rear its’ head not always in a good way.  I have to be self aware, not self conscious, there’s a difference.  Self conscious means I beat myself up for every little mistake and am never comfortable in my own skin, self aware means I am in the moment, in the present and aware of what I need to do, not do and change, am able to objectively see that and change it.  I hope as a society and as individuals we will get a lot more Authentic and way less Narcissistic!

Life Lesson 24 and 25

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When life throws us a curve ball, big or small, it hurts, it is frustrating, makes you wanna go “AHHHHHHH” and maybe if you are inclined to a victim mindset spiral into a full brown never ending cycle of kick yourself, why me etc… You could do that, could follow that pattern and we have all had those moments, but hopefully at some point you figure out that it’s not a healthy one long term, so how do you not stay in that pattern? You keep a journey maybe and you ask questions, like “Is there really no healthy alternative?  Is this going to really matter in five or ten years to my life, to those who truly love me?”  ask questions.  Let’s say the answer is “yes it will still impact me in five, ten, twenty years, well you still have choices.   How many people have made major detrimental life choices and then turned it all around, even became pastors who turn lives around and communities around?  Even when the answer to the questions is yes, doesn’t mean doom, doesn’t have to, this is why I love meditating and why I will be going to a buddhist center near me because I see how meditating alone benefits my clarity etc.., so even more so in group.  Does that mean I renounce my belief in Yeshua as my personal Rebbe, Massiach, and an important anchor in my life along with the Bible, no, but I will be looking and studying the Bible through the eyes of metaphysics and philosophy pretty much.  Whatever Fribromyalgia throws at me, there won’t be any screaming, any long term pity party or anything like that.  That’s my choice. 

Social media on the one hand is really a great tool for communicating and so much more, but on the other hand, everyone gets to openly throw eggs at ya, aim and shoot so to speak, so it also means you may find out exactly what people think of you, and it may not be what you expected, could be good or bad.  We can get so busy thinking about what others think of us, wanting their approval, that we don’t work on getting to where we are supposed to be, where we are truly meant to be, who we are truly meant to be.  We need to focus less on what others think and more on what legacy and impression we want to leave for future generations, for our children, grandchildren.  When I see the Left at these rallies with vulgar signs etc.. and their kids carrying those signs, I cringe.  Is that what legacy they are leaving their kids, is that who they truly are?  It really boggles my mind that they would do that to their children, teach that to their children.  They shouldn’t not do things because of what anyone will say, but whatever actions you take, your behavior, has consequences and leaves a legacy, so what will yours be?  What will mine be? Something to ponder.

 

Curiosity and Authenticity

Emotions and Meaning

Why do we often go gaga over kids, think they are adorable?  After all, they can be like a tornado in your home, but yet we often think they are precious, adorable etc… Part of that is because they have that sense of wonder, of curiosity about life, people, self, they are inquisitive, though at times that can drive adults nuts with the constant “why? but why?”.  Still this sense of wonder they have is beautiful, and for a while even teens and young adults might maintain it to a certain extent, but then life happens, it seems to beat us down, if we let it, and we no longer are curious about life, people anything, which is really sad for us and for society.   Time for adults to have a healthy curiosity about faith, life, love, arts, nature, to have that awe, that innocence, bring some of that back.  The other reason kids are a pip is they are themselves, even when playing pretend their authentic self is present.  Kids are not trying when they are young to be something they are not, not trying to score point etc.., kids when they are young, really young are just being themselves, being their core self, reveling in life, trying to, though these days society is a darker tone and not that easy for them to do so.  If you think back, if you are my age 50 something, you can remember block parties, neighborhood guys looking out for the kids, jump rope in the street, hopscotch outside, being yourself.  Time we really figured out who “Me” is holistically in healthy ways and claim our authenticity for our own sake and for the sake of our broken society.  For me, I plan on doing self Reiki with chakra chanting, and keep listening to the chakra meditation, weekly join a meditation circle by my home to really peel away the layers and understand as a child of the Most Sacred Source, the Creator of the Universe, Hashem, Yahweh what my truest core self is.  I have a good sense due to doing the exercises in my life coaching classes, but I still want to go deeper to understand myself and what makes me tick.  I raise a symbolic glass to us finding our curiosity and our authenticity for all time.

Shalom and Amen

Where To Go From Here?

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I have greater clarity after meditating on this that my core spiritual self rejects organized religion with lots of bureaucracy and hypocrisy,  yet I do want community, but I am also not really feeling up to spending the two years or so learning new rituals, a new faith etc.., nothing complicated anyway.   If I look at the threat of my life, the two things that are constant are Metaphysics and Meditation, on my spiritual journey anyway.  Therefor, what do I do now?  Do I just go back to Roman Catholicism just because it’s what I am familiar with? Do I pursue Jewish studies, that faith path, which means a whole new way of living, which in my household with a very Catholic Italian mom is not too easy, add my special diet and all that, gets tricky, very tricky. I firmly believe in God, firmly embrace Yeshua as my Rebbe, my Teacher, all of that, a strong anchor for me, Mashiach.  It comes back to the threat and both are positive ones, they are quite Zen and in meditating, I like to do chakra meditations or a particular type of very easy going exercise while listening to sacred music, instrumental.   I also happen to be a stickler for this quote, even if I have fallen prey now and again to relative morality, not a good thing I assure you. I happen to be a stickler for living up to this: ” A system of morality which is based on relative emotional values is a mere illusion, a thoroughly vulgar conception which has nothing sound in it and nothing true.”, courtesy of Socrates.  I also happen to be a warrior, not one to not say what I have to say and if you don’t like it, not my problem.  What do I do with all this? Oye! 

Like I said I look to the threads.  I need to focus on my wellbeing, releasing the fibromyalfia and some other stuff from my system and life.  The things that help me release, center besides meditating on connection to Yeshua, to Christ, to that anointing are philosophy and meditation, active, not passive meditation.  Therefor, seems to me that I need to find a place near home, which I have that offers Zen meditation, hatha yoga and I can engage in that and as I do the meditating etc… focus on connection to the Trinity, cleansing of self and life, healing in Yeshua.  I will never let go of Yeshua as my personal anchor and Rebbe, nor will I not study scripture independently, but right now I have to focus on my coaching studies, and my health/wellness, so I can have a New Year with a better state of wellness and prepared to be the best Holistic Life/Relationship Coach I can be. 

Shalom and Amen

Spiritual Core of Me

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As I embarked on this journey of finding out who I am, the DNA testing and all that and have made a journey that spiritually is like a maize, I am having to really look at what gives me true peace, clarity.  What is it?

The thing that gives me real peace, clarity is meditating, meditating on the metaphysical, metaphysical meditations, meditating on the Kabbalah Tree of Life, certain music and affirmations, doing so in Yeshaua’s name calling on him as my Rebbe, my friend.   That is what gives me peace, clarity, contentment, not religious ceremony or things of that nature, but celebrating the Jewish feasts along with Advent and Christmas as birth and ushering in the new, releasing the old with the help of my personal Rebbe and Friend Yeshua makes a difference.  Am I Jewish, Christian, what?  I am I suppose simply Metaphysical Philosopher with a great love for the Jewish Roots of my personal chosen Rebbe and Mashiach, Yeshua.  That is my path, my journey, so learning more about different techniques of meditation that I would be comfortable with is where I realize my spiritual journey needs to be.  I need to honor that, and to honor what I believe that Yeshua is the Mashiach.  As for a particular denomination, not something I am ready to embrace, but I do have a philosophy, core one, this quote from Socrates, sums it up well.
“A system of morality which is based on relative emotional values is a mere illusion, a thoroughly vulgar conception which has nothing sound in it and nothing true.”

I need to stay true to this and a few other core principles, including a few key proverbs http://www.beliefnet.com/faiths/christianity/galleries/10-proverbs-to-simplify-your-life.aspx  I will be able to live a healthy and abundant life.

 

 

Life Lessons 22 and 23

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When we think of chemistry, of attraction, we think of sexuality, but what about for the long term? The physical fades, and what happens when that physical spark is gone?  It takes more than satin sheets and a come hither look to keep a relationship going.  It takes things that you can do as a team, things that will excite the senses, multiple senses.  It means having great communication, and a few other key elements, such as being as one, but also an individual, a balancing thing.  The brain really is the most important sex organ, because the brain can receive intuitive information that can mean creating ongoing romance in the relationship, and shared stimulating activities outside the bedroom, that can lead to great moments in the bedroom.  Appreciate the brain as more than just that thing that helps with memorizing stuff and all that, it is more than that.  Happiness, hmmm, how many  have said “If so and so only loved me, I could be happy”  “If only so and so did this, I’d be forever happy”, get my drift.  We often in life look to someone to come and rescue us, to create happiness for us, peace for us, but that is not other people’s responsibility, though they can contribute to it, but it is our choices that determine happy or sad, peaceful or angry, bitterness or forgiveness.  Not someone else that will make us happy, not until we are happy with our own self, not until we have aligned our lives in ways that bring peace etc..to us.  As a person of faith I do believe that choices we make have consequences and so we must be wise in the choices we make, and when we are, things fall into place.  When we are not wise, then a bit of or a lot of chaos, inner and outer.  Happy is a choice we make each and every day of our lives.

Shalom and Amen

Running From and Flow

Emotions and Meaning

Workaholic, ahh yes.  What a dedicated __________ he or she is, burning that midnight oil, always the first one to volunteer to stay late, put in weekends etc..The dedication, the time put in to the company to the career, the accolades, puts in 80 hour weeks, and on top of that, does little league coaching and so much for the community.    Don’t get me wrong, succeeding at what you are good at is great, and being a part of community, impacting community is great, but when you are spending all your time in that and not communicating etc… with others, with your family, your spouse, it begs the question “what are you running from?”  If you are throwing all your energy into things external to your home, family, spouse, even your own self reflection, you have to wonder what it is you are running from, refusing to see, to address.  Something to ponder and shift maybe? Running doesn’t fix anything, only leaves you dizzy and out of breath.  Flow, great to go with this one because one of the things that fibromyalgia and life has been trying to teach me and I am getting it, is flow, adapting, learning new skills as you need to, not only to serve others in your calling, but also for yourself.  What I am studying and learning as a Coach, in my spiritual journey is flow matters a lot.  If you try to control everything, hold on tight to everything, you will control nothing, lose everything.  Part of life, living, surfing, which is part of life is flow.  Yes at times life throws you one heck of a curveball, but if you learn early on in life to flow, then you can adapt to any situation, and still thrive.  No running from life, from what needs to be faced, addressed etc.., rather addressing it constructively and flowing with the tide, not going under with it.  Important for all of us.

Forgiving Self

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This is something that I think will be a long journey for a lot of us, one that we make intellectually at first and for a long while, but emotionally, deep in the heart, in the spirit at the gut level, that takes longer.  One of the tings I will have to meditate on for myself is this very thing.

Shalom and Amen

Life Lessons 20 and 21

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Should we be prepared, ready for whatever life throws at us? Should we be well prepared for that presentation etc…, for our job every day, all these things?  Yes, yes we should.  You can’t totally wing everything and there are things you have to go in and should go in prepared, especially if people are paying you good money, entrusting you with their kids, their property, information etc.. Once you have solid foundation of preparation, then you need to be able to let go and go with the flow, adjust if anything wonky happens. In life we need to be able to do both, prepare and also go with he flow, be a combo dish so to speak, and that doesn’t always come easily or naturally, but wit time and practice, it comes.  Often people wait till they are much older to express a creative side or pursue a healthy passion because they feel they have all these obligations, or they feel, what will people think of me studying salsa dancing or something not what our family does, doesn’t fit into our family.  Life being so short, not as long as we think it is, let’s not wait to enjoy even the little things, to let out that beautiful creative streak, that salsa beat within. Okay.