Storms Keep Coming, Shelter Is Strong

Resurrection

These past months have been stormy and it seems I am not coming out of the rain yet.  My allergies put me through weeks of hell, then hit with the flu, now am on antibiotics for a bladder infection, am having one or two other issues as well.  The remaining time before Christmas will be spent going for tests and specialist consultations, OY!  I could be all pissed off at God, give up on anything changing, but how would that help me or anyone?  There is also the theology and understanding I have that this is not God doing this to me, but a result of being a physical being in a physical world, where there is decay. To blame God, be pissed at Him, to me makes no sense at all.  Be pissed at the entity, entities, energies of decay that have created this situation for humanity, all of us and other situations of pain etc.., that makes sense.  Yet, the anger is an important point because if the anger is bitterness long-lasting anger, not helpful.  If it’s righteous anger, Satan, I have held fast to the Covenant etc., you have no claim, I am going to overcome the storm, you do take steps to do so, that’s great.  I get thrown into these storms, true, but what’s important is what do I do?  What am I doing? 

Medically, I am going to be going for those tests etc.., logical and practical to do so. I also presented a wellness plan to my doctor which she approves of, and have already started substituting natural products for my meds. In January with my insurance Silver Sneakers benefit, I will have access to YMCA, Community Centers to participate in wellness and light exercise programs, which I will avail myself of.    Starting this month I will be going to a monthly Healing Circle at the nearby Buddhist Center, focusing on Christ as my anchor.   In addition, I have put together a proposal for an offer I received to potentially host my own online radio show, will send it on Monday.  For the blog, I’ll be posting mini-meditations, and intro seminar blog posts and then I will also in the store have full-length medications, seminars you can purchase in the store.   I keep thinking what scripture says that I can do all things through Christ, and I take that to heart.  What I have done in my meditation is to Consecrate the things that matter to me, my hopes and dreams to the Sacred Heart of Christ and Mary, that act of consecrating to the sacred, the holy, the divine is a strong anchor of positive flow and energy for my life, for navigating the storms, moving forward so I can be inspired, but also so I can inspire others, which is what brings me joy. 

Namaste, Shalom, and Amen                        

Feast of Seeing, of Opening Your Eyes

Feast of St. Lucy

On December 13, the Feast of Saint Lucy is celebrated in some countries. This is a special Christmas holiday that is very important mainly in Scandinavia and Italy. It’s called St. Lucy day (also known as St. Lucia Day). The celebration is held in honor of Saint Lucy, a martyr who became a patron of the blind and those with eye disorders who died during the Diocletianic Persecution.  The reason I love this is the light. 

Light, candlelight and St. Lucy being the patron of those who doesn’t see, not with the eyes, but perhaps with a different sight is beautiful.  The physical sight sees only what is in front of us, but the discerning sight of the spirit sees so much more.  It sees, senses emotions not being expressed, catches subtle cues and signals, facial expressions etc.., it connects to the spirit, soul of another in dreams, in music, paintings and so much more.  This feast of St. Lucy can be a beautiful reminder of all this and that although the spiritual realm, God, Christ, Holy Spirit, angels, love are not things you can physically hold in your hand, they are real, they do exist, and we can discern their being present and around us.  

Namaste, Shalom, and Amen

Who’s Running the Show?

The Italian news today had the tragic story of a disco that had a fire, and part of the problem was that the disco allowed may more people in that what the legal capacity was.  The other thing that struck me was that there were some moms in there, one of which died with her daughter, with their 13, 14-year-old kids.  My heart goes out to these people, but at the same time I have to ask:  “Where were the adults in the room?”  How did we get to the point in society that a mom is in an overcrowded disco with their underage kid drinking alcohol?  Where is the authority of parents in our society? I am reminded of these parents who have decided that their kids at 6 years old know that the gender God made them in is not their gender, and start dressing them that way, prepare them for the transition.  I have to ask:  “Where are the sane adults in the room who understand there is a deep psych disconnect going on there, a dysphoria, an illness and patting the child on the back is not wise or loving parenting, nor mature parenting.  Seems that rather than the parents having the authority etc.., and them running the household, the kids do these days.  That’s not the way it’s organized by God and nature.   Parents had better start being parents, waking up and taking control in society, and also realizing the damage academia and other free for all institutions are doing to our youth.  If you truly love someone, you understand that tough love is part of the deal, you dish out when needed and if they don’t like it, don’t for a while, suck it up!  Get a backbone, get a spine, don’t be a snowfkake, this to shall pass.  Meraki Lane gives some great advice on this and she talks about consequence vs punishment, which I like and makes sense to me.  She talks about creative consequences so I want share that with you and hope it helps in giving you an idea if you are a parent in how to handle discipline.

She talks about what to do when a child is behaving badly:

  • Ignore bad behavior. If your child is engaging in undesirable behavior that isn’t dangerous or harmful to himself or others, ignore it. Do not engage him and avoid eye contact until he stops the behavior in favor of something more acceptable, at which time you should offer praise and positive interaction.
  • Use praise and rewards. Taking the time to point out and praise or reward your child when he behaves appropriately not only boosts his self-esteem, but it also teaches him what your expectations are and makes him more motivated to seek our desirable instead of undesirable behaviors.
  • Be consistent and follow through. In order for consequences to work, you must resist the urge to intervene and always follow through.

Also, consider why they are behaving this way, try to understand why and when determining consequence to actions consider the following:

  • Use the Three R’s of Logical Consequences. In order to be effective, logical consequences should be:
    • Relevant. In order for your child to make a connection between the behavior and the consequence, it’s important that the 2 are tied closely together. For example, implementing additional study time after school when a child receives a bad grade on a test is a reasonable consequence that directly corresponds with the behavior you are trying to change. Taking away a child’s TV privileges for a month due to a poor grade is not.
    • Realistic. Consequences should also be reasonable. In the example above, implementing an additional 30-60 minutes of homework each evening and/or hiring a tutor after receiving a bad grade is realistic, but taking away all of a child’s privileges and expecting her to spend 6 hours a night studying is over the top.
    • Respectful. Logical consequences are designed to provide your child with an opportunity to learn from her mistakes, not lower her self-esteem. Use simple, concise, factual language and avoid negative emotion so as not to embarrass your child and make her feel defensive.
  • Always follow through! As parents, we often hear about the importance of being consistent and following through with consequences. If you fail to follow through, your child won’t take you seriously, learn accountability, or figure out the difference between right and wrong.

Logical Consequences.  She talks about the fact that consequences need to be logical, connected, relevant and gives 13 logical consequences.

  1. Loss of privileges. This is an easy logical consequence to fall back on as it can be applied to so many different situations. If your child is throwing her toys or refusing to share with others, she loses the privilege of playing with them for the rest of the day. If your child throws a tantrum when you ask her to stop playing with her iPad, iPad time is reduced or removed for a period of time. If your child behaves badly during a playdate with her friends, the playdate is cut short and/or she’s not allowed to participate in a playdate the following weekend.
  2. Take a 10-minute break. When behavior gets out of control, a short break in which a child is quiet can help calm her down and help ground her. This doesn’t need to be as drastic as sending a child to her room or ordering her into a time out. Simply removing her from the activity she is participating in and asking her to sit quietly and read a book for 10 minutes can help restore a sense of calm without it feeling like a true form of punishment. Sometimes I like to turn it around and grant myself a 10-minute break when behaviors get out of hand!
  3. Additional household chores. If your child has a tendency to complain she’s bored or refuse to participate in activities, crafts, and games you organize on weekends and school holidays, a logical consequence would be to assign household chores (‘I’d like to do X, but if you don’t want to participate, the other option is to help me with Y.’).
  4. Removal of toys for a period of time. If your child constantly leaves her lying toys around the house, or refuses to clean her room when asked, put all toys that aren’t put away properly in a bin and take them away for an extended period of time.
  5. Time deducted from desirable tasks. If your child consistently argues with you about doing homework, dawdles in the morning, drags out her bedtime routine, etc., consider taking the additional time spent arguing about it away from more desirable tasks, like playing with friends and watching TV.
  6. Clean up your own messes. Have a child who enjoys making messes on purpose? Make her clean them up herself! You may have to go back and clean up properly when she’s not looking, but this logical consequence will make her realize her behavior isn’t as funny (or cute) as she originally thought.
  7. If you break it, you fix it. Kids love to play roughly with their toys, and sometimes they break them out of anger or frustration. It’s normal. But when you stop fixing their toys for them, they will soon learn to respect their belongings, and the belongings of others.
  8. Earlier bedtime. I love this logical consequence as I know firsthand that poor behavior is often a result of poor sleep habits. If this sounds familiar, consider moving up your child’s bedtime for each infraction throughout the day (i.e. for each tantrum your child throws, her bedtime is moved up by 15 minutes).
  9. Spend time with those they’ve hurt. If your kids exercise a healthy dose of sibling rivalry on the daily, or you learn your child has been mean to a classmate at school, a great logical consequence is to require them to spend more time with that person. This could mean a sleepover in their sibling’s room, a playdate with an ostracized classmate, etc.
  10. Ignore. When your child is talking out of turn, refuses to use manners, etc., don’t be afraid to ignore her until she starts speaking to you the way you expect. It may take some time for her to understand the reason you are doing this, and you may want to discuss this logical consequence beforehand, but it works like a charm!
  11. Enforce quiet time. If your child is yelling or speaking disrespectfully, a good (and peaceful!) logical consequence is to remove them from the situation for a bit of quiet time until they calm down and remember to use an indoor voice and appropriate language.
  12. Hands in your pocket! If your child struggles to keep her hands to herself, a great way to change her behavior is to require her to keep her hands in her pockets. You will need to provide an explanation about this logical consequence beforehand, especially if your child is prone to hitting, but it’s a great strategy to use in the moment to curb poor behavior.
  13. No work, no play. If your child refuses to do her chores, don’t be afraid to take away play time. Once your child makes the connection, she’ll act more appropriately.

 

I hope this helps and again I came across this blog and these tips from Meraki Lane and wanted to share them with you.   

Namaste, Shalom and Amen

 

 

 

 

Advent Prayers

advent wreath prayers

 

I wanted to share these Advent prayers.  I love celebrating the Judeo-Christian aspects of the faith, as a matter of fact we had a Hanukkah party at my coop and we were given a box with a small Menorah, and candles, booklet on how to light them the prayers, and so I am celebrating both aspect of my biblical faith the Judeo and Christian by having my Anglican Rosary I say every night before midnight, and will help mum set up for Christmas, the decorations at home.  Enjoy these beautiful prayers and a Blessed Advent.

Amen 

Was It Beneficial To Ignore?

Ancient Bethlehem

As I think of the child in swaddling clothes, and as I think of the kids in my family at Christmas, their whole childhood and teen, just beginning teen, journey and my own, I think of the books that didn’t make it into the bible.  I think of the books that speak of the childhood of Jesus, of his relationship, in childhood, with Judas, of how he had to grow in stature, knowledge, favor with God, what that means.  These books would give us a glimpse of that. 

Did we and Jesus lose in those books not being shared with us?  I think, yes we did and so did Jesus.  Knowing that Jesus had a typical, kind of typical childhood, where he rebelled, had to reconcile His God side with the Human side, that inner journey and battle to balance, become the fullness of Messiah is something that could bring great comfort to parents and to all of us.  It gives me comfort knowing He in his humanity was less than perfect and had to learn to harness his gifts, divine powers, as we all have to learn to harness the gifts we have, though in our case it’s to not use them for bad.  In His case it was just keeping them under wraps until the right time, and as a kid in human form, sure that was not easy, especially when He saw kids being unjust etc… or adults.   It gives me comfort to know that I am not the only kid and teen who gave her mom acid reflux at times.  It also gives me comfort because it means that Jesus can understand all of me, not just the adult rebel me, but all of me, and so can the Father and Holy Spirit, the angels, all of the heavens.  To me the writings of the childhood of Jesus that the Church rejected I don’t reject, I look at them as a source of comfort, pity the Church doesn’t and has erased an entire chapter of the life of Jesus.  I don’t think any less of His deity knowing He had a rebellious childhood and teen streak, not in the least, it makes me love Him more, knowing he conquered it, was able to, with the help of the heavens, overcome that and become the Christos, Christ, Messiah, Savior of us all. 

Namaste, Shalom and Amen

We Are More Than …

Spiritual Being

As we celebrate Chanukah, Advent, Christmas, one of the goals should be to get back to this spiritual being we are and understanding this important perspective.  We can easily forget that we are a spirit being inhabiting a physical body.  Often, the two realities will clash, creating dis-ease and other issues.  One of the reasons I plan on joining the Buddhist Meditation circle weekly and special event healing circles at the Buddhist center, still centered in Christ, and pray the Anglican Rosary, and medicate daily is to remind myself of that in a deep way, release carnal baggage I may be carrying.  Especially in this Advent and Christmas Seasons, it is the perfect time to reflect and free yourself of baggage, to realize that we are spiritual beings living in a topsy-turvy physical existence and world.  How we choose to balance both sides, move through the world, with boundaries, morals, ethics, integrity or not is our choice, and any consequences, well we must then accept them.  My hope for Advent and Christmas, for my life, is that I truly get back to this and life can shift for the better.

Namaste, Shalom and Amen

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Advent Ideas, Prepare for the Light

Advent Ideas

If you are a person of faith, and have a family, friends that are your family, share your Christian faith, create activities to share it.  Why does Advent matter? Before the actual wedding, you have a lot of pr-wedding activities and preparations.  Reason being that you need to really let it sink in that this momentous event is going to be taking place.  Sometimes those around us make us nuts and add to the stress, but if you have a group of people around you that work to ease stress, then those things matter, as does counseling prior.  To help have it sink in that you are awaiting the birth of the Savior, Christ, Lord, King, a calendar of things you can do is a good idea.  I hope you find these ideas helpful and fun. 

Namaste, Shalom and Amen

Successful Habits To Embrace

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If I am going to succeed fully to my fullest potential, I need to get into successful habits, and this is a good start. How will I do this?  These 8 tips are a good start.  I have a sort of routine for the morning, but could I do better? What about a curious mind?  Is my mind curious to see all facets of history etc..? How organized am I?  These questions and others pertaining to these keys will be important to my moving forward and succeeding.  Questions are not a bad thing, it’s when you obsess over one question or one thing when the routine becomes a God that you have a problem.  If we look at these and try to understand how they can benefit us can shift life.  I need to get into a routine, as a spiritual person for example, and pray what I am drawn to such as the Anglican Rosary.    When I came across this, it really resonated because people that do reach goals, succeed have routines and healthy  These are some ideas that you might look at to see how you might shift your life in a more positive direction.    I plan on taking these tips to heart and incorporate them into my life. 

Namaste, Shalom and Amen

 

Life Lessons 44 and 45

45 life Lessons

Yielding is not easy since we have this thing called EGO and we want to be right, don’t want to look stupid or silly etc…Yet, what if not yielding, we end up actually looking that way, whereas if we had yielded, even just a bit, we would have been wise and looked wise before others, been an example of wise?  Bible says we perish for lack of knowledge, well part of that I am realizing is lacking knowledge, discernment and understanding when it comes to our own self-discipline, and how to navigate situations, relationships to know when to stand firm, not move, not budge, and when to say “is this such a priority that I am willing to have a war, that I have to be right?”  Meditating and studying sacred text is a way of reaching discernment, but so is the observation of life and people.  Seriously, if I had really paid attention to the world around me, looked at who has constructive patterns vs who had destructive ones and what are they, I would have looked at what successful, healthy relationships looked like in different aspect of life and what the pattern was when each yielded. Not saying I would do things exactly as others do since I am me, but I would have gained wisdom, maybe my life would look a bit different now.   Yielding at the right time, for the right reasons, once discerned is not a bad thing. 

When I was a kid one song that I used to listen to over and over was “I Never Promised You a Rose Garden” and the other was a song about love and it said that you didn’t know love until it chilled you to the bone, turned you inside out.  Life is like that, love can be like that, turn you inside out and upside down.  It may be for you or me more so than for others, to a different extent.  No one is immune from pain, though they may mask it, hide it, every one of us has had daggers thrown at us, some missed some hit.  Satan throws and if we have a strong constitution, strong faith etc.. we stand strong, stand tall, we may end up on our knees, we may bend, but we don’t break to the point of losing faith or knowing who we are.  Life is the ability to create, to do, impact and so much more, even with just a smile, the bounce in our voice, so no life doesn’t come all wrapped up in Christmas or other really pretty paper, but it is still a precious gift.  Even I have to remind myself of that each day in prayer, meditation, going out and seeing God’s creation, appreciating the seasons, the fact that I am alive and here, just here.  I hope you can appreciate that to. 

Namaste, Shalom and Amen

Love Yourself, Vanity?

Love Yourself Then

We often see the movies where these relationships come together so magically, and it’s beautiful, not saying it doesn’t happen.  If you’re not a warped, destroyed by academia man-hating modern feminist, you might want a relationship, a significant other to share your life with, your joys, sadness etc.. with.  I know I do.  Here is the thing, for me to have a relationship, I first have to have a great one with myself, with the Holy Trinity, with that great force of creation that brought me into being.  There can’t be an us with anyone if I am not clear in me, who I am, some clarity in that and my life’s path.  If I am one mass or bundle of confusion, how can I be in a relationship? What will happen is I will simply mimic that person in order to have an identity, clarity and that’s not authenticity,  So, it’s important that for any one of us to embrace an “us”, there first be a “me” with a core philosophy and worldview, preferably not one that hates men or women or is anarchist in nature, since that’s not healthy for anyone.  I value my Italian-American Catholic heritage from a cultural standpoint and there is wisdom in Catholic teaching.  However, my heart, spirit, and soul follow a very metaphysical understanding of the Bible, and a historical one, a beautiful combination.  That and one who believes in a Classical Conservative view of the world in terms of government is who I am, a teacher, minister of transformation in what I do is who I am.  Once there is a clarity in “me”, then there can be a journey to seek an “us”, that media naranja, that yin to our yang. I hope you are able to find your authentic core before the “us”, to have a happiest “us’ in your life, whether if be friendship or beyond. 

Namaste, Shalom and Amen