Chivalry and Gallantry, Duh, Good Thing!

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The beauty of a well tended and cared for garden, lovely isn’t it?  The garden did not get this way on its’ own.  Feminism, modern feminism fails to understand that relationships are all about gardening, not about winning, not about what they think it is.  What does this have to do with chivalry and all that? Plenty.

Women decided they didn’t want to care for or be cared for, that it was sexist, a sign of times of enslavement to the male species to have a man truly care for and take care of them and I don’t mean in an unhealthy dependency way.   It’s akin to a garden where both parties are the gardeners and as they tend to each other with great care, with great integrity, ethics, chivalry and all that jazz, the garden produces beautiful fruits, flowers, a beautiful place for peace, so much joy.  This also includes any long term work relationship and friendship.  If you are going to have a long term working relationship or friendship, then both parties need to be in a place where they recognize the beauty of the compliment of male and female as created by God, celebrate those compliment and synergy differences, not hate on them, try to destroy and eradicate them, not try to redefine sexuality.  When a man brings up an event, the courteous thing is you take her, you pick her up, take her home, especially if it is out of her immediate living area, like another county, don’t have her take buses and trains and all that.  The lady may say no thanks, which I don’t see why she would, but at lease the chivalry was extended.  Opening doors, holding doors, including car doors, so many little things that are not done and part of it is the “women’s movement” crazy notion that if you let a man do all this stuff and if you have a man take care of you in any way, worry about you etc..you are setting women’s lib back or some other stupidity.  Women also need to tend the garden, whether it’s romantic union or friendship, once the man has established a solid base, clear boundaries, but has shown he is ready for a mature, deep friendship or other type of union.  The garden should be mutually beautifully nurtured, chivalry should extend both ways in different ways because it’s the right thing to do.  I went through a short phase of “women’s lib, modern women’s lib mindset” luckily, I got of it, got some common sense.  I hope I will find others who think this same way and we can create a beautiful garden in life.

Amen

Clarity on People and Path

Life and Liberty, God Bless America

The light shines within., going out in connection to the Divine Creator.

As a new year begins, since one’s birthday really begins the New Year, I find myself quite clear what type of people I want in my life, including as a life partner and my vocational path.

In terms of friendship I want those who will share my conservative values, I would like to have friendship with those who love traditional conservative Catholicism, all that it encompasses, who would seek activities regularly connected to church,  Catholic culture and the arts, often in connection to faith and church.  I hope to have the good Lord bring forth into my life those who live in and love the city, in and with very close distance to Manhattan as I really am a City girl, not a country girl, unless it’s a  day or weekend trip, and someone is taking me out there with the car and back home, the drive is not a long one at all, or it’s a , very convenient train ride, like when I used to go to Long Island.  I would love to have friends with whom I can do great artistic and faith collaborative work with and also share social activity with, as here described.    I would even be open to home movie and then dine and chat about the movie or program kind of thing and if I had my own space, place I would even host that kind of thing.    In terms of a special someone to share my life with, not any different, it would be someone who really does encompass gallantry, some old fashioned gallantry, so if you get invited to someplace, they pick you up, take you home, see to it you get to where you are going and back home safe.  They look out for, same with any male friends, they do it out of gallantry, respect.  These are the type of people I am going to be meditating on attracting to my life, into my life and that I be this kind of person also.    I hope to in my life and in general be able to reject the sin, but love and have empathy for the sinner, understanding the difference and also the difference between empathy and sympathy.

As for my vocational path. no doubt on that.  The path for me is music and ministry, so far it is with the church and voluntary, which is fine, don’t mind.   I also need to earn my daily braad as the saying goes, so now comes the putting this all together outside of the church, activities separate from that to earn my daily bread and hopefully I can collaborate with others starting this Fall to make that happen.  It is what I want to do with the rest of my life.  

Amen

 

Dark Room, Headphone, Numb, Yikes!

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I had a dream this morning about someone I know and it truly pained me because I care about them as a person and what both of us hope to save in therms of our faith and an institution.

When a dream shows me someone carrying a bunch of stuff, equipment, papers etc… and they are about to fall to the ground, smash to a million pieces, them saying oh oh as they try to keep that from happening, and they then refuse all offer of assistance offered, all wisdom, insight advice offered in that same dream, any attempt from anyone in that regard, rather going into a dark room, headphones on, fidgeting with equipment that is not in line with what is needed, just being in the dark, working alone in a dark room, a dark place.  That kind of dream is heartbreaking because it tells me that a person is not only living in the dark about what is going on around them, refusing to heed any advice, any input etc.., but that they have tuned out to true intimacy, true close relationships of any kind.  They are carrying all this load on their own, refusing to accept help, real help, real close deep profound connection help, collaboration etc…  They won’t share anything of depth with you, or rally anyone in any intimate connection way, though they may have lots of people they know.  It was heartbreaking to watch this person in my dream go into that dark room, cover his ears, refuse to hear, refuse to acknowledge, perhaps even his own heart, spirit and soul truths.  One can choose to stay in that dark room forever, alone, shut everyone out, heed no one be a team of one, but that is a dark place to be, letting past hurt baggage accumulated stay there.  One can do the opposite and be liberated from all that junk, baggage, not be in a dark room, not have headsets on and ignore truths about what should be done, reach out and ask for help directly, collaborate, coordinate etc.. directly on a day to day basis.  That takes a lot of courage to do so and awareness of the fact one is in the dark all alone, in that dark room with those headsets.  

What do you do if you have, as an empath etc.., these insights?  When you receive these insights it is usually for a reason, and the first thing to do is pray and meditate as to why you did.  If it’s a dear friend you are an integral part of their life, hang out a lot, really close, you can directly approach them about it.  However, if that is not the case, as much as it pains you to receive this insight, you can also be grateful that you did receive and pray, meditate for their healing of heart, spirit and soul, for release of all their baggage, breaking down of all their walls, all that is toxic etc…for the light to shine bright in their lives.  Don’t give up, meditate, pray and as best you can, offer help periodically, maybe just in the form of thoughtful questions to ponder.  

Amen

Supportive Yet Protective, Tricky?

Letting Go Never Easy, But Necessary

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You care, you want to be supportive, but you also feel protective of the person, the entity perhaps you are a member of and those you interact with within the entity.  You want to be supportive, but you may also have a protective side, especially if you are an empath and intuitive etc… by nature who sees with the spirit guided by what the Spirit gives you.

When one of persons there is spinning their wheels to perhaps exhaustion trying to make an idea work that you know is not meant to be, sense they might be stuck in the past even with their personal life, and you sense this very clearly or even see any of this unfold right before your eyes, it’s tricky.  If you simply tear down their dream, then you risk their resenting you for being a downer and all that.  If on the other hand you play pollyanna and all is well, just smile and pretend all is bright and beautiful, you are not being much of a true friend. You are on a scale trying to keep the scale from tipping either where you are too harsh and totally make them feel crushed and like you have no faith in them, which you might, just not in a particular idea or project, or where you present a pollyanna unrealistic this is going to be great, all working out peachy, keep spinning your wheels, no biggie.  Neither will serve anyone well.  What do you do? For one if you are dealing with a professional situation, do your homework, so if you are going to give advice, you are giving it based on solid research and feedback maybe even that others have given on what has been going on.  When you present any advice, even to a friend make it clear you support their dreams, their efforts to achieve a goal, but you are concerned about the spinning of their wheels, how that energy could be focused elsewhere.  Anything regarding a personal nature, not moving on, returning to the past, maybe find a song that talks about leaving the past in the past and why it should stay there if they are artistically inclined. Letting them know you understand nostalgia can be powerful, but there is a reason people are not part of our lives, why we are apart, not truly connected anymore to others, best to move forward, not back, especially if that connection etc.. was toxic in any way.

We might know in our heart, spirit and soul that what the Holy Spirit has given us is what ought to be, a vision after God’s own heart that should be implemented, but others may not see that same vision, and may be spinning their wheels, banging their heads against the wall doing stuff that is not workable and not part of God’s great commission or even remotely part of his plan for the group, the person, the organization, but if we are going to get that vision across we can’t do it with the scale out of balance in either direction.  Meditate, research, meditate on Scripture, and mediate some more.  You will know how to approach things, even if not everyone will appreciate your efforts to do things right, the heavens will.   Hope this helps in your journey through life and relationships.

Amen

Sometimes, A Sigh and Hope They See

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There are times when you can see things very clearly, when the Holy Spirit has given you a clear vision and you are ready to forge ahead. Ahhh but…

You wake up and have a solid vision let’s say in regards to your vocation, to the path to take in that regards and you are well under way and you see in front of you ship ready to sink and the other person also knows the ship is sinking and they need to reverse, chart a new course, but like many of us don’t want to give up on their “child”, their idea, no matter what.  You hate to see them going in circles, bang their head against a wall and you have given all the input you can, so what do you do?  You may have to step back, just step back do you thing, work on what you need to work on, pray and meditate the Holy Spirit will come upon them with the same vision you were given or a complimentary one.  All you can do sometimes because anything else will lead to you banging your head against the wall.  You have to know when that point is to step back, really listen to your spirit, inner self connected to the divine realm.

Another scenario, one wakes up and realizes their soulmate is front of them, and as an intuitive you know they have realized it, so why is there not a moving forward more specifically, an integration socially etc…? If you are a person who wants things said, done, let’s go, get to it, times a wastin, speak up, let the heart flow, let’s go, you might wonder why the other person is not speaking up, letting the heart flow, sharing his or her feelings etc…  For some realizing their twin flame soulmate is right in front of them and they have feelings after they have done everything to numb themselves because of crap they have had in their lives, maybe they have even had a divorce, not an amicable one.  Any number of reasons may make them very reluctant to acknowledge or to accept that they have had this realization or that they are feeling anything for anyone in any intense way, or any deep way.   They have learned to be numb, detached, be butterflies in philanthropy, socially and all that, but as far as making a wham bam wow rock my world connection, twin flame soulmate connection they are petrified of that.  What do you do? Caring, support, not phony tell you what you want to hear support, sincere, from the heart, even if that means saying what they might not want to always hear, but need to.  You meditate, pray, envision the walls they have put up crumbling down, all the unprocessed pain etc… faced, processed and released so they can admit to the twin flame soulmate connection and move on it.  If they can’t, if they refuse to take down the walls for because of life circumstances can’t, then ask for divine sacred guidance and for things to unfold to the greater good of all.

Amen

 

A Relationship Like A Choir

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A relationship can be compared to a garden, to different things but I am going to compare it to a choir, might be a new one. I think it might be an apt description.

In a choir you have different vocal ranges, members with different gifts that have to work in harmony with each other.  If the choir members don’t harmonize, don’t understand their different gifts, don’t have good flow with those gifts then that choir will never work. A relationship is like a choir, each of you has gifts and figuring out what they are that you bring to the table and how they work together can be quite challenging for some.  Also, some voices etc.. personalities work quite well together and some don’t, so a good choir director will seek to bring together those that do work well together.  One of the reasons that praying to the Lord to bring one’s twinflame soulmate to them for a life union is important is that he is a great choir director, so he will know which one is your best partner for a lifelong choir partnership.  The flow will be there, that ebb and flow that allows for great collaboration, cooperation, coordination, communication all of that and so much more.  When you have a good understanding of what each brings to the choir, the relationship and the ebb and flow is there you will find a few things happening more and more as it unfolds:

  • presence, the desire for real presence in each other’s day to day life
  • exchange and free flow of ideas, encouragement mutually
  • shared goals, spiritual path perhaps
  • shared personal, spiritual growth and development, even perhaps creative development

These are just some of the things that you would see unfold as the choir that is one’s twinflame soulmate relationship unfolds.  You may even help each other explore gifts, discover gifts and talents you never knew you had. You bring out all kinds of great stuff in each other, lift each other up, a great journey and experience each and every day.   Will there be moments when you sing off key? yeah, but you quickly get back to singing in tune and on key because you understand the gifts you each have and how you compliment each other.  Each day is a great adventure, so that even being in a park, sitting and observing people can be ecstasy because great spiritual stuff can come up, creative stuff. even the simplest things when you are together can turn into a whole orchestra of music.  That happens in a true soulmate union because you are not trying to change anyone, you simply bring out the positive aspects in each other and anything that is detrimental, well with prayer, with encouragement, the greatest choir director of all can take care, though it may take time.  It is worth waiting sometimes for that perfect for you, not perfect because none of us is that, twinflame soulmate, even if they do come along later in life, to create together beautiful music.

Amen

Instant Affinity, Now What?

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You meet and there is this instant affinity, anointing almost, might not be flashy, balls of fire, it might be like a beautiful spiritual breeze and descending dove that comes upon you.  It might be something where you instantly click, flow, communicate etc.. and it feels like home, they feel like home.  If you are a sensitive you might sense they have that same affinity, same magnetic pull in your direction.  What’s the problem? Why not just assume everything will move at lightening speed and their heart, spirit soul will open up, they will acknowledge this to themselves, to you etc…? Well because it may not happen that way and it may not be that easy.

We have seven levels of consciousness according to metaphysical teaching and if you also look at catholic saints and their mystical experiences you see that we have layers of consciousness.  What does that mean?  It means just that, depth and layers.  For feelings and acknowledging them, well it can be tricky.  Feelings begin at a subconscious and psychic conscious level and work their way up to the conscious.  For some that happens very quickly, nothing blocks it and they have such an openness with the divine, with their own feelings, and the spiritual on every level that they are able to immediately have the subconscious feelings go to the conscious acknowledge them and constructively bring them out into the open.  Others, it is a lot harder to do that due to lack of trust in themselves, in others, in life etc.. due to negative experiences.  If they have had a life pattern of negative experiences, then they will have closed their heart, spirit and soul, not want to love or be loved, even if they do want that, yearn for it.  When they do start to have any deep emotions of friendship, of connection of anything with anyone on a subconscious and psychic level, their immediate instinct might be to block it, resist it, get all intellectual about it etc.., anything rather than face it, embrace it, express it to the other person, act on it.  That terrifies them, confronting anything emotional terrifies them because it might bring pain as far as they’re concerned.

What do you do when you know there is something there, underneath the surface, but they do not have the courage to express it, to speak up, to share etc…? Keep being you, keep connecting, pray, meditate,  hope that any walls that have been put up due to fear will come down and what is in the subconscious, those deeper hidden levels will surface, be acknowledged, fully embraced, fully expressed etc…If at some point you feel you have to let go and in terms of your heart move on, you do so.

Amen