Supportive Yet Protective, Tricky?

Letting Go Never Easy, But Necessary

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You care, you want to be supportive, but you also feel protective of the person, the entity perhaps you are a member of and those you interact with within the entity.  You want to be supportive, but you may also have a protective side, especially if you are an empath and intuitive etc… by nature who sees with the spirit guided by what the Spirit gives you.

When one of persons there is spinning their wheels to perhaps exhaustion trying to make an idea work that you know is not meant to be, sense they might be stuck in the past even with their personal life, and you sense this very clearly or even see any of this unfold right before your eyes, it’s tricky.  If you simply tear down their dream, then you risk their resenting you for being a downer and all that.  If on the other hand you play pollyanna and all is well, just smile and pretend all is bright and beautiful, you are not being much of a true friend. You are on a scale trying to keep the scale from tipping either where you are too harsh and totally make them feel crushed and like you have no faith in them, which you might, just not in a particular idea or project, or where you present a pollyanna unrealistic this is going to be great, all working out peachy, keep spinning your wheels, no biggie.  Neither will serve anyone well.  What do you do? For one if you are dealing with a professional situation, do your homework, so if you are going to give advice, you are giving it based on solid research and feedback maybe even that others have given on what has been going on.  When you present any advice, even to a friend make it clear you support their dreams, their efforts to achieve a goal, but you are concerned about the spinning of their wheels, how that energy could be focused elsewhere.  Anything regarding a personal nature, not moving on, returning to the past, maybe find a song that talks about leaving the past in the past and why it should stay there if they are artistically inclined. Letting them know you understand nostalgia can be powerful, but there is a reason people are not part of our lives, why we are apart, not truly connected anymore to others, best to move forward, not back, especially if that connection etc.. was toxic in any way.

We might know in our heart, spirit and soul that what the Holy Spirit has given us is what ought to be, a vision after God’s own heart that should be implemented, but others may not see that same vision, and may be spinning their wheels, banging their heads against the wall doing stuff that is not workable and not part of God’s great commission or even remotely part of his plan for the group, the person, the organization, but if we are going to get that vision across we can’t do it with the scale out of balance in either direction.  Meditate, research, meditate on Scripture, and mediate some more.  You will know how to approach things, even if not everyone will appreciate your efforts to do things right, the heavens will.   Hope this helps in your journey through life and relationships.

Amen

Sometimes, A Sigh and Hope They See

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There are times when you can see things very clearly, when the Holy Spirit has given you a clear vision and you are ready to forge ahead. Ahhh but…

You wake up and have a solid vision let’s say in regards to your vocation, to the path to take in that regards and you are well under way and you see in front of you ship ready to sink and the other person also knows the ship is sinking and they need to reverse, chart a new course, but like many of us don’t want to give up on their “child”, their idea, no matter what.  You hate to see them going in circles, bang their head against a wall and you have given all the input you can, so what do you do?  You may have to step back, just step back do you thing, work on what you need to work on, pray and meditate the Holy Spirit will come upon them with the same vision you were given or a complimentary one.  All you can do sometimes because anything else will lead to you banging your head against the wall.  You have to know when that point is to step back, really listen to your spirit, inner self connected to the divine realm.

Another scenario, one wakes up and realizes their soulmate is front of them, and as an intuitive you know they have realized it, so why is there not a moving forward more specifically, an integration socially etc…? If you are a person who wants things said, done, let’s go, get to it, times a wastin, speak up, let the heart flow, let’s go, you might wonder why the other person is not speaking up, letting the heart flow, sharing his or her feelings etc…  For some realizing their twin flame soulmate is right in front of them and they have feelings after they have done everything to numb themselves because of crap they have had in their lives, maybe they have even had a divorce, not an amicable one.  Any number of reasons may make them very reluctant to acknowledge or to accept that they have had this realization or that they are feeling anything for anyone in any intense way, or any deep way.   They have learned to be numb, detached, be butterflies in philanthropy, socially and all that, but as far as making a wham bam wow rock my world connection, twin flame soulmate connection they are petrified of that.  What do you do? Caring, support, not phony tell you what you want to hear support, sincere, from the heart, even if that means saying what they might not want to always hear, but need to.  You meditate, pray, envision the walls they have put up crumbling down, all the unprocessed pain etc… faced, processed and released so they can admit to the twin flame soulmate connection and move on it.  If they can’t, if they refuse to take down the walls for because of life circumstances can’t, then ask for divine sacred guidance and for things to unfold to the greater good of all.

Amen

 

A Relationship Like A Choir

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A relationship can be compared to a garden, to different things but I am going to compare it to a choir, might be a new one. I think it might be an apt description.

In a choir you have different vocal ranges, members with different gifts that have to work in harmony with each other.  If the choir members don’t harmonize, don’t understand their different gifts, don’t have good flow with those gifts then that choir will never work. A relationship is like a choir, each of you has gifts and figuring out what they are that you bring to the table and how they work together can be quite challenging for some.  Also, some voices etc.. personalities work quite well together and some don’t, so a good choir director will seek to bring together those that do work well together.  One of the reasons that praying to the Lord to bring one’s twinflame soulmate to them for a life union is important is that he is a great choir director, so he will know which one is your best partner for a lifelong choir partnership.  The flow will be there, that ebb and flow that allows for great collaboration, cooperation, coordination, communication all of that and so much more.  When you have a good understanding of what each brings to the choir, the relationship and the ebb and flow is there you will find a few things happening more and more as it unfolds:

  • presence, the desire for real presence in each other’s day to day life
  • exchange and free flow of ideas, encouragement mutually
  • shared goals, spiritual path perhaps
  • shared personal, spiritual growth and development, even perhaps creative development

These are just some of the things that you would see unfold as the choir that is one’s twinflame soulmate relationship unfolds.  You may even help each other explore gifts, discover gifts and talents you never knew you had. You bring out all kinds of great stuff in each other, lift each other up, a great journey and experience each and every day.   Will there be moments when you sing off key? yeah, but you quickly get back to singing in tune and on key because you understand the gifts you each have and how you compliment each other.  Each day is a great adventure, so that even being in a park, sitting and observing people can be ecstasy because great spiritual stuff can come up, creative stuff. even the simplest things when you are together can turn into a whole orchestra of music.  That happens in a true soulmate union because you are not trying to change anyone, you simply bring out the positive aspects in each other and anything that is detrimental, well with prayer, with encouragement, the greatest choir director of all can take care, though it may take time.  It is worth waiting sometimes for that perfect for you, not perfect because none of us is that, twinflame soulmate, even if they do come along later in life, to create together beautiful music.

Amen

Instant Affinity, Now What?

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You meet and there is this instant affinity, anointing almost, might not be flashy, balls of fire, it might be like a beautiful spiritual breeze and descending dove that comes upon you.  It might be something where you instantly click, flow, communicate etc.. and it feels like home, they feel like home.  If you are a sensitive you might sense they have that same affinity, same magnetic pull in your direction.  What’s the problem? Why not just assume everything will move at lightening speed and their heart, spirit soul will open up, they will acknowledge this to themselves, to you etc…? Well because it may not happen that way and it may not be that easy.

We have seven levels of consciousness according to metaphysical teaching and if you also look at catholic saints and their mystical experiences you see that we have layers of consciousness.  What does that mean?  It means just that, depth and layers.  For feelings and acknowledging them, well it can be tricky.  Feelings begin at a subconscious and psychic conscious level and work their way up to the conscious.  For some that happens very quickly, nothing blocks it and they have such an openness with the divine, with their own feelings, and the spiritual on every level that they are able to immediately have the subconscious feelings go to the conscious acknowledge them and constructively bring them out into the open.  Others, it is a lot harder to do that due to lack of trust in themselves, in others, in life etc.. due to negative experiences.  If they have had a life pattern of negative experiences, then they will have closed their heart, spirit and soul, not want to love or be loved, even if they do want that, yearn for it.  When they do start to have any deep emotions of friendship, of connection of anything with anyone on a subconscious and psychic level, their immediate instinct might be to block it, resist it, get all intellectual about it etc.., anything rather than face it, embrace it, express it to the other person, act on it.  That terrifies them, confronting anything emotional terrifies them because it might bring pain as far as they’re concerned.

What do you do when you know there is something there, underneath the surface, but they do not have the courage to express it, to speak up, to share etc…? Keep being you, keep connecting, pray, meditate,  hope that any walls that have been put up due to fear will come down and what is in the subconscious, those deeper hidden levels will surface, be acknowledged, fully embraced, fully expressed etc…If at some point you feel you have to let go and in terms of your heart move on, you do so.

Amen

What Do I Start With, What I want or…?

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If I am going to look at my life and look at any relationship, particularly soulmate twinflame and even key professional relationship where do I start in terms of a vision and all that?

I guess I could start with what I want, but I’ve decided to start with what I don’t want, which is:

  • Fearful closed oyster
  • Avoidance syndrome
  • Avoidance by butterfly syndrome or by busy bee syndrome
  • Fragmented syndrome
  • Still tied to the past, what if, an ex (past is past, ex is ex, cut the cords, let go kindly, but let go)

Having determined this is what I don’t want, not even in myself in terms of how I would be in a relationship and work on not being that, what do I want in key relationships, including my life partner relationship?

  • Open communication
  • Deal up front with everything
  • Focused, streamlined in life, in work, social life
  • Caring, demonstrative
  • Equal partnership in decision making
  • Ministry, Creative and Artistic partner, as well as life partner
  • Conservative Worldview, rooted in Christ
  • Appreciation of Italian culture

I am going to keep doing what I am doing and placing myself in the atmosphere where I might connect to such persons, while seeking to be that person myself as well.  I realized that before determining what I wanted I had to be clear about what I didn’t want, filter that out.  Now that I have I can meditate on and pray on these types of partnerships I do want, coming into my sphere.  

Amen

 

Close Collaboration Possessiveness?

Letting Go Never Easy, But Necessary

Some of us want partnership, collaborative, cooperative, synergy, intertwining for very good reasons.  However, that and speaking, sharing from the heart openly, freely and whenever free flowing is misinterpreted. 

I create strictly according to in the moment, at that moment Holy Spirit given and inspired material.  I don’t force anything, set time specifically aside to write songs or music or even my meditations.  I write and record things as they come on the spot when they come on the spot more often than not,  in terms of my own stuff.   However, I also have a strong sense of wanting to closely collaborate with others day to day, find those who will value my skill set as an artist and so much more.  Who will value that I wear my heart on my sleeve, will pry their own heart open, see wearing heart on the sleeve not as an evil thing, see my sharing what I think and feel for the greater good of the project, the relationship etc.. as a good thing, not an evil thing, or a possessiveness thing.  It doesn’t matter if it is professional or personal, to me there has to be communication, free flowing, open and from the heart, heart on the sleeve.  There has to be connection, cooperation, collaboration, really working as a team or nothing will work.  I don’t want to do lone ranger only and so when I make any kind of really positive, great connection I see no reason not to reach out, share, heart on my sleeve, be totally open with my ideas etc…, intertwine socially as well.  Why not?  It seems others don’t always take well to this, and view it as possessive, as perhaps I might have ulterior motives and withdraw, suddenly withdraw.  I know I am simply sharing, caring, reaching out and being authentic to myself in doing so, in seeking integrated collaboration etc…, but others don’t seem to always see it that way. Hmmm

I could stop being me, feel awful about being me, never reach out again, give up on ever finding solid partnerships to engage in creatively or otherwise, ones that are bold courageous, heart on the sleeve etc… I could do all of that, feel sad, depressed about it all, but that would mean life and the world would be deprived of my works, of what I could achieve and that is not an option.  If others choose to let their fears, paranoia etc… get in the way and withdraw, or walk away, okay, up to them, but I have to keep being me, reaching out, speaking from the heart so on so forth.

Amen

Speak Up and Still Be Supportive? Hmmm

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Can you speak up about what you perceive, give your input and yet still be supportive? Can you have collaboration, true connection, integration etc… when the other person is too scared to connect on any level, really connect?  These are questions that we might find ourselves facing in life, so what is the answer? Well nothing in life is ever cut and dry, not really.

If you are sharing your views etc..as just that. sharing and doing so because you truly care and also at the same time recognize that the other person may not want to change what they are doing, even if it’s not working then okay.  One might not see changes, not right away, but at least you know you spoke from the heart, cared enough to speak, to give your assessment, suggestions etc…If that person determines you have valid points and goes with it, great and if they don’t, well say lots of prayers, do lots of meditating on the positive and do your job the best you can.  If at any point you truly feel in your heart, spirit and soul you can’t stay, then well, you can’t stay.  At lease you will know you shared from the heart what you felt needed to be shared.  They might not be ready to handle all that sharing, that caring, support, so you may get silence back initially, but that’s okay.  You just keep doing what you were meant to do, do your best and keep praying and meditating on the positive.  What if you are in a collaborative, joint effort situation, and connection, collaboration, really connecting, having free flow communication is important to you in order to really make a success of things in full., really knowing the other is important to you?  What if the other person is not really there because of life issues, past traumas, current ones, or whatever?  I am not a fan at this stage of life of doing things lone ranger as I call it.  I am really looking for people and projects that there will be a real connection, real in depth collaboration, connection etc…, really getting to know the persons involved in the projects I am involved with, at least the key players in the project.  It matters a great deal to me and I feel that it matters to the success of whatever the project is that there be strong mutual connection, collaboration etc…If the other person is not ready for that, I can’t force it, can’t pry them open to connect etc…I can only reach out and be myself, offer my full support, be the best me I can be, pray and meditate.  At some point hopefully the protective walls will come down and there will be full connection, in depth collaboration etc…, but until then all I can do is be me, do my work, share my gifts, pray and meditate.  I have to trust that I will have the wisdom to navigate the waters and create a safe harbor for collaboration, connection etc.. in depth.  

Amen